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The reader: "However, the family should be directed to the festivals of Allah and his Messenger, and their rights should be fulfilled within them to the extent that it cuts off their longing for anything else. If they are not pleased, then there is no power or strength except in Allah. And whoever angers his family for the sake of Allah, Allah will please him and please them. And let the wise person beware of obeying women in this matter"
The Shaykh : This is an important principle: that a person cuts off his family's hopes of imitating the polytheists. For example, if he says, "Christmas falls on a Saturday, so I will not make a festival in this week; I will make it in the second week," the young people and the common folk will think in their hearts that this is following the festival of the disbelievers. So Shaykh al-Islam (may Allah have mercy on him) says to direct them to the lawful festival. He says to them, for example, "This is their festival, and our festival is what? 'Id al-Fitr and 'Id al-Adha are our festivals," in order to cut off their hopes. Then he (may Allah have mercy on him) says, if they are not pleased, then there is no power or strength except in Allah. But he pointed out that one should not anger his family for the sake of Allah. And that is the case: whoever angers Allah's servants for the sake of Allah, Allah will please him and please them with him. And whoever seeks the pleasure of people through the anger of Allah, Allah will be angry with him and make people angry with him. This is a matter that a person must be alert to. However, there is nothing wrong with tact, meaning that one conceals the matter from them. For example, if his mother says to him, "Boycott your father because he married another woman," is it permissible for him to obey his mother in this? It is not permissible. But he should use tact with her, meaning that he goes to his father without her knowing, so that he achieves dutifulness to his father and does not anger his mother. Yes.
The Shaykh : This is an important principle: that a person cuts off his family's hopes of imitating the polytheists. For example, if he says, "Christmas falls on a Saturday, so I will not make a festival in this week; I will make it in the second week," the young people and the common folk will think in their hearts that this is following the festival of the disbelievers. So Shaykh al-Islam (may Allah have mercy on him) says to direct them to the lawful festival. He says to them, for example, "This is their festival, and our festival is what? 'Id al-Fitr and 'Id al-Adha are our festivals," in order to cut off their hopes. Then he (may Allah have mercy on him) says, if they are not pleased, then there is no power or strength except in Allah. But he pointed out that one should not anger his family for the sake of Allah. And that is the case: whoever angers Allah's servants for the sake of Allah, Allah will please him and please them with him. And whoever seeks the pleasure of people through the anger of Allah, Allah will be angry with him and make people angry with him. This is a matter that a person must be alert to. However, there is nothing wrong with tact, meaning that one conceals the matter from them. For example, if his mother says to him, "Boycott your father because he married another woman," is it permissible for him to obey his mother in this? It is not permissible. But he should use tact with her, meaning that he goes to his father without her knowing, so that he achieves dutifulness to his father and does not anger his mother. Yes.