Yes. The Shaykh : We answer this question from two perspectives
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The questioner : My father lives with me in the house, along with my children and my wife. I am not present in the house because of my job duties outside my province, and I return to the house every month or every twenty days for a period of about a week. Every time I return to my house, I find that he has caused me problems with my wife and my children. He usually assaults them with beating and verbal abuse, often without reason. I have advised him to stop these actions, which the Islamic religion does not approve of, but he does not take my advice. He is very stubborn and does not perform his religious duties according to the proper manner. Please note that he is a shaykh in his sixty-fifth year and his health is good. My wife has started to complain about him a lot, and even my children do not want to see him because of the harshness and inhumane treatment he gives them. So, should I leave my wife and the four children and choose my father, or should I leave my father and live with my children and my wife? I am no longer able to combine the two matters? Yes.
The Shaykh : We answer this question from two perspectives. The first perspective is regarding the father. We advise him against this action attributed to him, if it is true, and we say to him: Fear Allah the Exalted in yourself, in your son, in your grandchildren, and in your son's wife, for you are responsible for every action that results from your behavior.
As for the second perspective, it is regarding this son who has been afflicted with this trial. We say to him: If patience is not possible in this situation, then there is no blame on him if he separates himself with his wife and children in a place, but he must not cut off the relationship between himself and his father. If his situation allows or can bear having a man to serve his father, then that is good and fine. However, he should not make his wife and children a prey for this problem, but rather he should combine that, meaning combining the good treatment of his children with considering his father. Yes.
The questioner : This is a message from the questioner N.A. from Riyadh.
The Shaykh : We answer this question from two perspectives. The first perspective is regarding the father. We advise him against this action attributed to him, if it is true, and we say to him: Fear Allah the Exalted in yourself, in your son, in your grandchildren, and in your son's wife, for you are responsible for every action that results from your behavior.
As for the second perspective, it is regarding this son who has been afflicted with this trial. We say to him: If patience is not possible in this situation, then there is no blame on him if he separates himself with his wife and children in a place, but he must not cut off the relationship between himself and his father. If his situation allows or can bear having a man to serve his father, then that is good and fine. However, he should not make his wife and children a prey for this problem, but rather he should combine that, meaning combining the good treatment of his children with considering his father. Yes.
The questioner : This is a message from the questioner N.A. from Riyadh.