The Prohibition of a Woman Abandoning Her Husband's Bed Except for a Valid Reason
Machine translationRead the Arabic original
Question:
He says in another question: When a close relative of the wife, such as a son, a brother, or a father, passes away, she abstains from her husband's bed for a long period, reaching a full year. Is she entitled to do so? Is there a specific period for mourning? And if the husband and wife agree to mourn their son for a period of one year, is there any blame? Please inform us, may Allah reward you.
Answer:
This is not permissible. She has no right to disobey her husband and abandon his bed, not for a day, nor for more. Rather, it is obligatory for her to obey her husband in what is right, and to make herself available to him if he desires intercourse, provided there is no impediment such as illness, menstruation, or post-natal bleeding.
Therefore, it is obligatory for her to obey him and make herself available to him. Allah the Exalted said in His great Book: [Surat al-Nisa: 19] And He the Exalted said: [Surat al-Baqarah: 228] The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: And in another wording: Sahih Muslim 1436c This is a great warning.
The presenter: We repeat this hadith once again.
The Shaykh: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: And in another wording, he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Meaning: Allah and His angels. This is a great warning.
Therefore, it is obligatory for the woman to listen and obey her husband in what is right, and not to abandon the bed, even if a relative dies, whether it is her father, her son, her maternal uncle, or her paternal uncle. She has no right to change her state for more than three days. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sahih Muslim 938c So she has no right to observe mourning for her father, her mother, her brother, or her son for more than three days. Three days is fine; she may leave off adornment.
As for disobeying her husband, no, she does not disobey her husband, not in the three days, nor in any other time. But there is no harm in her leaving off adornment, such as beautiful clothes or perfume, during these three days on account of the death of her brother, or her father, or her mother, or the like.
As for the husband, the period is four months and ten days if he dies. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sunan an-Nasa'i 3534Sahih (Darussalam).
It is obligatory for women to fear Allah, and likewise for men; all of them should fear Allah . A woman should fear Allah in her husband, obey him in what is right, and not abandon his bed because of the death of a relative or otherwise. We ask Allah for guidance for all of you. Yes.
The presenter: O Allah, amen. May Allah reward you with good.
He says in another question: When a close relative of the wife, such as a son, a brother, or a father, passes away, she abstains from her husband's bed for a long period, reaching a full year. Is she entitled to do so? Is there a specific period for mourning? And if the husband and wife agree to mourn their son for a period of one year, is there any blame? Please inform us, may Allah reward you.
Answer:
This is not permissible. She has no right to disobey her husband and abandon his bed, not for a day, nor for more. Rather, it is obligatory for her to obey her husband in what is right, and to make herself available to him if he desires intercourse, provided there is no impediment such as illness, menstruation, or post-natal bleeding.
Therefore, it is obligatory for her to obey him and make herself available to him. Allah the Exalted said in His great Book:
And live with them in kindness
وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِAnd due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable. But the men have a degree over them [in responsibility and authority].
وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌWhichever woman spends the night while her husband is angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.
أيما امرأة باتت، وزوجها عليها ساخط؛ لعنتها الملائكة حتى تصبحthe One Who is in the heaven is displeased with her until he (her husband) is pleased with her
كان الذي في السماء ساخطًا عليها حتى يرضى عنهاThe presenter: We repeat this hadith once again.
The Shaykh: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Whichever woman spends the night while her husband is angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.
أيما امرأة باتت وزوجها عليها ساخط؛ لعنتها الملائكة حتى تصبحIf a woman spends the night while her husband is angry with her, then He who is in the sky is angry with her.
إذا باتت المرأة، وزوجها عليها ساخط؛ كان الذي في السماء ساخطًا عليهاTherefore, it is obligatory for the woman to listen and obey her husband in what is right, and not to abandon the bed, even if a relative dies, whether it is her father, her son, her maternal uncle, or her paternal uncle. She has no right to change her state for more than three days. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
A woman must not observe mourning for one who had died for more than three (days) except for four months and ten days in the case of her husband.
لا تحد امرأة على ميت فوق ثلاث، إلا على زوج أربعة أشهر وعشرًاAs for disobeying her husband, no, she does not disobey her husband, not in the three days, nor in any other time. But there is no harm in her leaving off adornment, such as beautiful clothes or perfume, during these three days on account of the death of her brother, or her father, or her mother, or the like.
As for the husband, the period is four months and ten days if he dies. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
No woman should mourn for anyone who dies for more than three days, except for a husband, for whom she should mourn for four months and ten days.
لا تحد امرأة على ميت فوق ثلاث، إلا على زوج؛ فإنها تحد عليه أربعة أشهر وعشرًاIt is obligatory for women to fear Allah, and likewise for men; all of them should fear Allah . A woman should fear Allah in her husband, obey him in what is right, and not abandon his bed because of the death of a relative or otherwise. We ask Allah for guidance for all of you. Yes.
The presenter: O Allah, amen. May Allah reward you with good.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
The Arabic text is copied verbatim from the original source, without any edits.