The ruling on weeping for the deceased and whether one is punished for it?
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Question:
The second question: Is it permissible to weep for the deceased, even though he has been dead for a long time? And is it true that tears burn the deceased, or not? Please inform us?
Answer:
There is nothing wrong with weeping with the tears of the eye; what is forbidden is wailing and raising the voice. As for the tears of the eye, they do no harm. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sahih Ibn Hibban 11:272, and when his son Ibrahim died, he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sahih al-Bukhari 1303.
So what is forbidden is: wailing, shouting, tearing the garment, and slapping the cheeks; this is what is forbidden. Plucking the hair is not permissible, but there is no blame on one for the tears of the eye.
The second question: Is it permissible to weep for the deceased, even though he has been dead for a long time? And is it true that tears burn the deceased, or not? Please inform us?
Answer:
There is nothing wrong with weeping with the tears of the eye; what is forbidden is wailing and raising the voice. As for the tears of the eye, they do no harm. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Indeed, Allah does not punish for the tears of the eye or the sadness of the heart, but He punishes for this or shows mercy—and he pointed to his tongue—
إن الله لا يعذّب بدمع العين ولا بحزن القلب ولكن يعذّب بهذا أو يرحم - وأشار إلى لسانه -The eyes are shedding tears and the heart is grieved, and we will not say except what pleases our Lord, O Ibrahim ! Indeed we are grieved by your separation.
العين تدمع، والقلب يحزن، ولا نقول إلا ما يرضي الرب، وإنا بفراقك يا إبراهيم لمحزونونSo what is forbidden is: wailing, shouting, tearing the garment, and slapping the cheeks; this is what is forbidden. Plucking the hair is not permissible, but there is no blame on one for the tears of the eye.
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