The Ruling on Weeping at the Time of Calamity and the Warning Against Lamentation
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Question:
Is it forbidden for a mother to weep for the death of her son? And what must she do to be among the believing women who are patient, and to seek reward from Allah?
Answer:
She seeks reward from Allah when the calamity strikes; she seeks reward from Allah. Weeping does no harm, as long as she weeps with tears from her eyes. What is prohibited is the raising of the voice in lamentation. If the eye sheds tears, there is no harm in that, because death comes suddenly and has its effect on the soul. So if a person weeps with tears from the eyes, there is no blame on him. The accountability is for the tongue through lamentation.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said when his son Ibrahim died:Sahih al-Bukhari 1303 And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sahih Muslim 924 and pointed to his tongue, meaning: lamentation.
And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Mishkat al-Masabih 1727 meaning: raising the voice, meaning: weeping over the deceased. And he said: Sahih Muslim 934 And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sahih Muslim 927b The danger of lamentation is great; it is not permissible. But tears from the eyes and sorrow in the heart, there is no blame in that. Praise be to Allah. Yes.
The presenter: Praise be to Allah, may Allah reward you with good.
Is it forbidden for a mother to weep for the death of her son? And what must she do to be among the believing women who are patient, and to seek reward from Allah?
Answer:
She seeks reward from Allah when the calamity strikes; she seeks reward from Allah. Weeping does no harm, as long as she weeps with tears from her eyes. What is prohibited is the raising of the voice in lamentation. If the eye sheds tears, there is no harm in that, because death comes suddenly and has its effect on the soul. So if a person weeps with tears from the eyes, there is no blame on him. The accountability is for the tongue through lamentation.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said when his son Ibrahim died:
The eyes are shedding tears and the heart is grieved, and we will not say except what pleases our Lord, O Ibrahim ! Indeed we are grieved by your separation.
العين تدمع، والقلب يحزن، ولا نقول إلا ما يرضي الرب، وإنا بفراقك يا إبراهيم لمحزونونAllah does not punish for the tears that the eye sheds or the grief the heart feels, but He punishes for this (pointing to his tongue), or He may show mercy.
إن الله لا يعذب بدمع العين، ولا بحزن القلب، ولكن يعذب بهذا، أو يرحمAnd he (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Among my people there are four characteristics belonging to the pre-Islamic period which they do not abandon: boasting of high rank, reviling other people’s genealogies, seeking rain by the stars, and wailing.
أربع في أمتي من أمر الجاهلية، لا يتركونهن: الفخر بالأحساب، والطعن في الأنساب، والاستسقاء بالنجوم، والنياحةIf the wailing woman does not repent before she dies, she will be made to stand on the Day of Resurrection wearing a garment of pitch and a chemise of mange.
النائحة إذا لم تتب قبل موتها؛ تقام يوم القيامة، وعليها سربال من قطران، ودرع من جربThe dead is punished in the grave because of wailing on it.
الميت يعذب في قبره بما نيح عليهThe presenter: Praise be to Allah, may Allah reward you with good.
Source
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