The Ruling on Women Who Visit Graves

Question:
My mother passed away when I was young, and now I visit her in the cemetery. Is that permissible for me, and what is the supplication that reaches her and the reward that reaches her? May you be rewarded.

Answer:
Answer: This is a mistake on your part, and it is forbidden. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “May Allah curse the women who visit graves,” and in another narration: “the women who visit graves.” So you have made a mistake in visiting your mother’s grave, because you did not ask the people of knowledge. Restrict yourself to doing what is reported to be done for the deceased and whose reward is sent to them, such as charity: give charity on behalf of your mother and intend the reward of the charity for her. Increase your supplication for her with mercy and forgiveness, and perform Hajj and 'Umrah on her behalf. These acts are reported in the hadiths regarding the permissibility of doing them and sending their reward to the deceased. Nothing else is sent to the deceased from acts of worship, due to the saying of Allah the Exalted: “And man will have nothing but what he strives for.”