Marriage over a wife who has not fallen short
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Fatwa number ( 9856 )
Q: I am a woman who has been married for five years to a righteous man, praise be to Allah, and Allah has blessed me with four children from him. My life with him is happy, praise be to Allah. However, after we had our fourth daughter, my husband married another woman. I was in dire need of him during this period, and his marriage was not for any reason or shortcoming on my part—as he claims—but rather to revive the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in plural marriage, and to increase offspring. But I was unable to bear this. When he went to his second wife, I had no choice but to endure it, be patient, and seek reward from Allah for it. I began to feel torn apart inside. This affected my nursing infant and my health. Days passed in this state, and only Allah knows my condition. So I wanted you to
guide me to the appropriate and correct solution that does not incur sin from me before Allah. Is it permissible for me to ask him to leave me? Knowing that I have four children from him. Or should I ask him to leave her, who is pregnant with his child? What is the Islamic ruling in this matter? Do I sin if I ask him for that? And does he sin if he leaves her? Knowing that I went to her during the period of waiting (iddah) and asked her to leave him, and I told her that I could not bear this. She told me that this happens if the matter is at the beginning, and then one gets used to it, and one does not feel anything, and the matter becomes normal. But the opposite is true for me; every day that passes, I feel more burning pain and anguish. So what should I do?
A: If the husband is, as you described, righteous and good in his treatment, and you have children from him, we advise you to be patient with what has happened and to remain with him, provided that his only fault is marrying over you. You should be good in your treatment of him by fulfilling his marital rights, and preserve your children from separation and loss. You should not do anything that harms him or harms your co-wife. If you do something that harms either of them, apologize to the one you harmed. If he or your co-wife harms you, bear it and admonish the one who harmed you with gentle admonition. We ask Allah to guide you and grant you success in good treatment and soundness in building the family and raising the children with Islamic manners and noble morals.
And success is from Allah, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and his Companions.
Q: I am a woman who has been married for five years to a righteous man, praise be to Allah, and Allah has blessed me with four children from him. My life with him is happy, praise be to Allah. However, after we had our fourth daughter, my husband married another woman. I was in dire need of him during this period, and his marriage was not for any reason or shortcoming on my part—as he claims—but rather to revive the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in plural marriage, and to increase offspring. But I was unable to bear this. When he went to his second wife, I had no choice but to endure it, be patient, and seek reward from Allah for it. I began to feel torn apart inside. This affected my nursing infant and my health. Days passed in this state, and only Allah knows my condition. So I wanted you to
guide me to the appropriate and correct solution that does not incur sin from me before Allah. Is it permissible for me to ask him to leave me? Knowing that I have four children from him. Or should I ask him to leave her, who is pregnant with his child? What is the Islamic ruling in this matter? Do I sin if I ask him for that? And does he sin if he leaves her? Knowing that I went to her during the period of waiting (iddah) and asked her to leave him, and I told her that I could not bear this. She told me that this happens if the matter is at the beginning, and then one gets used to it, and one does not feel anything, and the matter becomes normal. But the opposite is true for me; every day that passes, I feel more burning pain and anguish. So what should I do?
A: If the husband is, as you described, righteous and good in his treatment, and you have children from him, we advise you to be patient with what has happened and to remain with him, provided that his only fault is marrying over you. You should be good in your treatment of him by fulfilling his marital rights, and preserve your children from separation and loss. You should not do anything that harms him or harms your co-wife. If you do something that harms either of them, apologize to the one you harmed. If he or your co-wife harms you, bear it and admonish the one who harmed you with gentle admonition. We ask Allah to guide you and grant you success in good treatment and soundness in building the family and raising the children with Islamic manners and noble morals.
And success is from Allah, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and his Companions.
Source
www.alifta.gov.sa
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