Among the matters that must be attended to in marriage is making bridal gifts easy.
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The Shaykh : And among the matters that must be attended to in the chapter of marriage is the mahr (bridal gift), the mahr or the mahr. It is better that it be lightened, lightened as much as possible, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah 6:433 And what is the amount of the mahr? Does it have a specific amount? If a man marries a woman for one dirham, that is sufficient. But does it have an upper limit? It has no upper limit, but the less it is, the better it is, the greater its blessing, and the easier it is, easier, - ... May Allah reward him with good, let him stand up to open for his brothers - I say: It has no upper limit, but the less it is, the better it is. Look at what follows from lightening the mahr: It follows that it is better, this is one point.
It follows that it is easier for men. If it were not for the high cost of mahr, women would not be remaining in their homes now. Every woman wants to get married, but the obstacle and the preventer is the large amount of the mahr. It follows that it is easier for men. If it were not for the high cost of mahr, women would not be remaining in their homes now. Every woman wants to get married, but the obstacle and the preventer is the large amount of the mahr. A small mahr lightens the burden on a person from another aspect, which is: If Allah the Exalted wills that there is no harmony between the spouses, and this is a reality, meaning that marriage is not always successful, is it not so? Good, if the mahr is easy and light, it is easy for the husband to divorce his wife:[An-Nisa 4:130] But if the mahr is large, it is absolutely impossible for him to divorce her because he has lost money on her, and perhaps he has borrowed a lot of money, so it becomes very difficult for him to, what? To divorce her. So evil and affliction occur. A large mahr causes dislike of the woman, because not every woman a man marries does he like completely, is it not so? Good, if she did not please him completely, he can endure her, but he endures her reluctantly. And whenever he has free time, he thinks: How do I lose this great amount of money on this woman? And now he cannot divorce her because the mahr is large. Then, if he divorces her, when will he find a wife? He finds himself thinking: How do I lose this large amount of money on this woman? So lack of affection occurs. And with this, the hadith is verified, and it is true, but it serves as a witness to the truth of the hadith: Mishkat al-Masabih 3097 Therefore, we call upon our Muslim brothers, everyone who hears this speech of ours, to strive to reduce the mahr, seeking the better and the easier, so that women do not remain unmarried, and men do not remain without marrying.
The greatest of women in blessing is the one whose maintenance is the least.
أعظم النساء بركة أيسره مؤونةIt follows that it is easier for men. If it were not for the high cost of mahr, women would not be remaining in their homes now. Every woman wants to get married, but the obstacle and the preventer is the large amount of the mahr. It follows that it is easier for men. If it were not for the high cost of mahr, women would not be remaining in their homes now. Every woman wants to get married, but the obstacle and the preventer is the large amount of the mahr. A small mahr lightens the burden on a person from another aspect, which is: If Allah the Exalted wills that there is no harmony between the spouses, and this is a reality, meaning that marriage is not always successful, is it not so? Good, if the mahr is easy and light, it is easy for the husband to divorce his wife:
