Problems arose between me and my family because of my wife, so I told my brother, "If you remain angry with me, I am divorcing her." What is the ruling on this?
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The questioner : The problem started three months ago, so I don't know if my wife is lawful for me or not? Up to now, I don't know, so I said I would go to the muftis. I don't know what my status is.
The Shaykh : Did you receive an official fatwa or not?
The questioner : I received a fatwa, but sir, everything was confused. My mental state was bad; I was confused myself, so I don't know exactly what happened.
The Shaykh : Did you act upon the fatwa you received?
The questioner : I went to the mufti of Zarqa.
The Shaykh : Answer the question.
The questioner : Yes, sir.
The Shaykh : May Allah forgive you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Did you act upon the fatwa you received?
The questioner : What do you mean, act upon it?
The Shaykh : Did you implement it?
The questioner : The fatwa was not [valid], sir!
The Shaykh : May Allah guide you. Answer the question. Do you want me to repeat the question?
The questioner : No, I did not implement it, because I remained afraid of it!
The Shaykh : And you are truthful in what you say, if Allah wills, that you did not implement it.
The questioner : I did not implement it, because, sir, I used to hear [something] and feel that I was wrong, or I didn't know what was correct.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace and Allah's mercy and blessings.
The questioner : I mean!
The Shaykh : My brother, there is a saying in some countries: "A word and its cover". I am only asking you: did you implement this fatwa or not?
The questioner : I did not implement it.
The Shaykh : So either you implemented it or you did not?
The questioner : Yes, I did not implement it, because...
The Shaykh : I do not want a long speech. I am asking you: did you implement it or not? The answer is: I implemented it or I did not implement it. What is your answer?
The questioner : Yes, I did not implement it.
The Shaykh : Okay, what is the problem?
The questioner : The problem is that I uttered the words of divorce in front of my brother in a moment of anger. Based on this, I fell into many conversations, meaning I got into them, so I became unable to get out of anything, or I would forget something or remember something. It became like this, so I went to this mufti and that mufti!
The Shaykh : Before you went to the mufti, tell me how the incident happened?
The questioner : One time I told my brother: If you want to keep being angry with me like this, or if you are putting pressure on my wife and on me, meaning pressuring us, then I am done, I am divorcing her. I am not sure about this, meaning at the time of speaking, and I told him I would divorce her, so I don't know what happened, and many conversations happened after that, and there was confusion, I don't know!
The Shaykh : Okay, how long have you been married?
The questioner : About ten months.
The Shaykh : Ten months?
The questioner : And with her family, it has been six months.
The Shaykh : A word, a word and its cover. The best speech is what is brief and sufficient.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : You have been married for ten months?
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Did you ever divorce her before?
The questioner : I do not remember.
The Shaykh : Huh?
The questioner : I do not remember.
The Shaykh : No, what?
The questioner : Before I married her, meaning?
The Shaykh : There is no power or strength except in Allah. My brother, in the ten months of your marriage, did you ever divorce her before?
The questioner : In front of her, meaning?
The Shaykh : Allah is sufficient for me, and He is the best Disposer of affairs. In front of her or behind her.
The questioner : Did you utter the words of divorce?
The Shaykh : Before this incident, did you divorce her? I am not concerned with whether it was in front of her, behind her, with someone present, or not. We are not entering into these details now. Did you divorce her before?
The questioner : I am a bit confused, sir, mentally!
The Shaykh : And I am unable to answer you.
The Shaykh : Did you receive an official fatwa or not?
The questioner : I received a fatwa, but sir, everything was confused. My mental state was bad; I was confused myself, so I don't know exactly what happened.
The Shaykh : Did you act upon the fatwa you received?
The questioner : I went to the mufti of Zarqa.
The Shaykh : Answer the question.
The questioner : Yes, sir.
The Shaykh : May Allah forgive you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Did you act upon the fatwa you received?
The questioner : What do you mean, act upon it?
The Shaykh : Did you implement it?
The questioner : The fatwa was not [valid], sir!
The Shaykh : May Allah guide you. Answer the question. Do you want me to repeat the question?
The questioner : No, I did not implement it, because I remained afraid of it!
The Shaykh : And you are truthful in what you say, if Allah wills, that you did not implement it.
The questioner : I did not implement it, because, sir, I used to hear [something] and feel that I was wrong, or I didn't know what was correct.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace and Allah's mercy and blessings.
The questioner : I mean!
The Shaykh : My brother, there is a saying in some countries: "A word and its cover". I am only asking you: did you implement this fatwa or not?
The questioner : I did not implement it.
The Shaykh : So either you implemented it or you did not?
The questioner : Yes, I did not implement it, because...
The Shaykh : I do not want a long speech. I am asking you: did you implement it or not? The answer is: I implemented it or I did not implement it. What is your answer?
The questioner : Yes, I did not implement it.
The Shaykh : Okay, what is the problem?
The questioner : The problem is that I uttered the words of divorce in front of my brother in a moment of anger. Based on this, I fell into many conversations, meaning I got into them, so I became unable to get out of anything, or I would forget something or remember something. It became like this, so I went to this mufti and that mufti!
The Shaykh : Before you went to the mufti, tell me how the incident happened?
The questioner : One time I told my brother: If you want to keep being angry with me like this, or if you are putting pressure on my wife and on me, meaning pressuring us, then I am done, I am divorcing her. I am not sure about this, meaning at the time of speaking, and I told him I would divorce her, so I don't know what happened, and many conversations happened after that, and there was confusion, I don't know!
The Shaykh : Okay, how long have you been married?
The questioner : About ten months.
The Shaykh : Ten months?
The questioner : And with her family, it has been six months.
The Shaykh : A word, a word and its cover. The best speech is what is brief and sufficient.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : You have been married for ten months?
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Did you ever divorce her before?
The questioner : I do not remember.
The Shaykh : Huh?
The questioner : I do not remember.
The Shaykh : No, what?
The questioner : Before I married her, meaning?
The Shaykh : There is no power or strength except in Allah. My brother, in the ten months of your marriage, did you ever divorce her before?
The questioner : In front of her, meaning?
The Shaykh : Allah is sufficient for me, and He is the best Disposer of affairs. In front of her or behind her.
The questioner : Did you utter the words of divorce?
The Shaykh : Before this incident, did you divorce her? I am not concerned with whether it was in front of her, behind her, with someone present, or not. We are not entering into these details now. Did you divorce her before?
The questioner : I am a bit confused, sir, mentally!
The Shaykh : And I am unable to answer you.