I live with my mother, and she has no one but me, and problems always arise between her and my wife. Is it permissible for me to leave my mother's house and move to another house to avoid these problems?
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The questioner : We have a driver and a maid...
The Shaykh : What do you have?
The questioner : A driver, a driver.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : For the mother's sake.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : And a maid as well.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : ... naturally, it was...
The Shaykh : Peace and mercy of Allah be upon you.
The questioner : ... so, always, my mother talks to my wife and shouts at her, meaning problems... and my mother has no one but me, meaning my father is not present, so I am confused, meaning, is it permissible for me to leave my mother...?
The Shaykh : Why would you leave?
The questioner : Because there are always problems between her and my mother.
The Shaykh : Between your wife and your mother?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : The problems are between your wife and your mother.
The questioner : Yes, my wife claims that my mother does not like her.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : And my mother always says, "This is your wife..." meaning.
The Shaykh : What do you want? You are the one in charge, you are the guardian of your wife, and you are like a slave to your mother.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : So you must judge.
The questioner : Meaning, the judgment returns to me, meaning... because I do not want to upset my mother.
The Shaykh : I am telling you, do not listen to your wife. You say, "My wife claims that my mother does not like her." What do you want? You are following your wife's words. Look, if your mother, God forbid, is wronging your wife, advise her in the best manner. On the other hand, advise your wife to be patient. It is not permissible for you to leave your mother for the sake of your wife.
The questioner : Ah, and even if my mother gets angry and does not get angry, meaning.
The Shaykh : Even if.
The questioner : ... she always tells me to get out, even... in a state of anger.
The Shaykh : If she kicks you out against your will, then you have an excuse at that time. But an angry word has no value.
The questioner : It has no value, yes.
The Shaykh : No, it has no value.
The questioner : Meaning... in the best manner, or.
The Shaykh : This is your duty.
The questioner : Ah, yes, okay, Shaykh, may Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : And may He reward you.
The questioner: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : What do you have?
The questioner : A driver, a driver.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : For the mother's sake.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : And a maid as well.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : ... naturally, it was...
The Shaykh : Peace and mercy of Allah be upon you.
The questioner : ... so, always, my mother talks to my wife and shouts at her, meaning problems... and my mother has no one but me, meaning my father is not present, so I am confused, meaning, is it permissible for me to leave my mother...?
The Shaykh : Why would you leave?
The questioner : Because there are always problems between her and my mother.
The Shaykh : Between your wife and your mother?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : The problems are between your wife and your mother.
The questioner : Yes, my wife claims that my mother does not like her.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : And my mother always says, "This is your wife..." meaning.
The Shaykh : What do you want? You are the one in charge, you are the guardian of your wife, and you are like a slave to your mother.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : So you must judge.
The questioner : Meaning, the judgment returns to me, meaning... because I do not want to upset my mother.
The Shaykh : I am telling you, do not listen to your wife. You say, "My wife claims that my mother does not like her." What do you want? You are following your wife's words. Look, if your mother, God forbid, is wronging your wife, advise her in the best manner. On the other hand, advise your wife to be patient. It is not permissible for you to leave your mother for the sake of your wife.
The questioner : Ah, and even if my mother gets angry and does not get angry, meaning.
The Shaykh : Even if.
The questioner : ... she always tells me to get out, even... in a state of anger.
The Shaykh : If she kicks you out against your will, then you have an excuse at that time. But an angry word has no value.
The questioner : It has no value, yes.
The Shaykh : No, it has no value.
The questioner : Meaning... in the best manner, or.
The Shaykh : This is your duty.
The questioner : Ah, yes, okay, Shaykh, may Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : And may He reward you.
The questioner: Peace be upon you.
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