Some women argue against their husbands marrying other women by citing that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade 'Ali from marrying over Fatimah or divorcing her; what is your opinion?
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The questioner : Some women argue in this matter that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) imposed a condition on 'Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) not to marry over Lady Fatimah.
The Shaykh : This is not a valid argument. First, the question must be corrected, because the question is incorrect. The hadith does not state that he imposed a condition on 'Ali.
The questioner : The wording was hasty.
The Shaykh : This is what we want to correct, but in fact, when it reached the ears of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) that 'Ali wanted to marry over his daughter Fatimah, he delivered a sermon with the signs of anger on his face, and among the things he said was: or as he (peace and blessings be upon him) said.
This—may Allah bless you—is a ruling specific to the daughter of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), because—what does one say?—she is the daughter of the Master of Mankind, and that is sufficient. It is not permissible for a Muslim to engage in a cause that scratches the comfort of the Messenger or the joy of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), because he is not like the rest of mankind in this quality. Every Muslim must be the most eager of people to bring joy to the heart of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) by every lawful means.
And since it is known that problems usually occur between co-wives, Lady Fatimah might be hurt as a co-wife who is harmed, and this harm would transfer to the Messenger (peace be upon him) indirectly. And harming the Messenger is not like harming one another. Therefore, he warned him against it and did not impose it as a condition from the start, because it was not what came to mind. It did not occur to the mind of the Messenger, who had favored his cousin 'Ali ibn Abi Talab by marrying him to the best of the women of the worlds, Fatimah (peace be upon her), that he would later marry a Muslim woman. But with that, the daughter of whom?
The daughter of Abu Jahl. So we can say briefly: This is a ruling concerning the daughter of the Messenger, so the daughters of the world cannot be compared to her. As some jurists say: "This is like comparing blacksmiths to angels".
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : This is not a valid argument. First, the question must be corrected, because the question is incorrect. The hadith does not state that he imposed a condition on 'Ali.
The questioner : The wording was hasty.
The Shaykh : This is what we want to correct, but in fact, when it reached the ears of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) that 'Ali wanted to marry over his daughter Fatimah, he delivered a sermon with the signs of anger on his face, and among the things he said was:
Would the daughter of Abu Jahl be married to the daughter of Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)? Fatimah is distressed by what distresses her, and I am angered by what angers her.
أَيُنكح على بنت محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم بنتُ أبي جهل ؟ إنَّ فاطمة يريبني ما يريبها ويغضبني ما يغضبهاThis—may Allah bless you—is a ruling specific to the daughter of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), because—what does one say?—she is the daughter of the Master of Mankind, and that is sufficient. It is not permissible for a Muslim to engage in a cause that scratches the comfort of the Messenger or the joy of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), because he is not like the rest of mankind in this quality. Every Muslim must be the most eager of people to bring joy to the heart of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) by every lawful means.
And since it is known that problems usually occur between co-wives, Lady Fatimah might be hurt as a co-wife who is harmed, and this harm would transfer to the Messenger (peace be upon him) indirectly. And harming the Messenger is not like harming one another. Therefore, he warned him against it and did not impose it as a condition from the start, because it was not what came to mind. It did not occur to the mind of the Messenger, who had favored his cousin 'Ali ibn Abi Talab by marrying him to the best of the women of the worlds, Fatimah (peace be upon her), that he would later marry a Muslim woman. But with that, the daughter of whom?
The daughter of Abu Jahl. So we can say briefly: This is a ruling concerning the daughter of the Messenger, so the daughters of the world cannot be compared to her. As some jurists say: "This is like comparing blacksmiths to angels".
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.