The questioner says: I am married to a university student, and I have had sons and daughters from him. He has married another woman and prefers her over me. I want to know the following:
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The questioner : I am married to a university student, and I have had sons and daughters from him. He has married another woman.
The Shaykh : Your daughter.
The questioner : Yes, she is the wife of your son.
The Shaykh : That is incorrect.
The questioner : Yes, and he has married another woman and prefers her over me. I want to know the following: If the husband asks me for a release, and I release him with my words out of fear of him, is he absolved of his obligation?
The Shaykh : It is obligatory for a man who has two wives to be just between them to the extent of his ability.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : In speech, action, time for enjoyment, and so on, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)Sunan Abi Dawud 2133Sahih (Al-Albani).
The questioner : ... .
The Shaykh : However, what is beyond one's ability, such as love and affection and what drives them, a person is not held accountable for it, based on the saying of Allah the Exalted[Al-Baqarah 2:286].
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : So if this man whom the woman referred to leans toward his other wife, that is forbidden for him and not permissible. And if she releases him with her tongue but not her heart, he is not absolved by that.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Except in this world; he is absolved in this world, but he may have an excuse with Allah on the Day of Resurrection if he leans toward the other one and she has released him, because he does not know what is in her heart. If he does not know what is in her heart, he is not burdened with what he does not know. So he may say, "You released me," or "You released me, and if you released me, I do not know what is in your heart."
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : So I am authorized by you to lean toward the other one, and in that case, I am excused with Allah. But despite this, the woman should be frank so that her husband is on clear evidence and insight.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : So either he is able to be just between them, or he is unable, and in that case, he gives her the choice: either she remains as she is, or he divorces her.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : In fact, this choice was also mentioned in the question of the listener M.A.S. from al-Qassim.
The Shaykh : Your daughter.
The questioner : Yes, she is the wife of your son.
The Shaykh : That is incorrect.
The questioner : Yes, and he has married another woman and prefers her over me. I want to know the following: If the husband asks me for a release, and I release him with my words out of fear of him, is he absolved of his obligation?
The Shaykh : It is obligatory for a man who has two wives to be just between them to the extent of his ability.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : In speech, action, time for enjoyment, and so on, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
When a man has two wives and he is inclined to one of them, he will come on the Day of resurrection with a side hanging down.
من كانت له امرأتان فمال إلى إحداهما جاء يوم القيامة وشقه مائلThe questioner : ... .
The Shaykh : However, what is beyond one's ability, such as love and affection and what drives them, a person is not held accountable for it, based on the saying of Allah the Exalted
Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity
لا يكلف الله نفسا إلا وسعهاThe questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : So if this man whom the woman referred to leans toward his other wife, that is forbidden for him and not permissible. And if she releases him with her tongue but not her heart, he is not absolved by that.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Except in this world; he is absolved in this world, but he may have an excuse with Allah on the Day of Resurrection if he leans toward the other one and she has released him, because he does not know what is in her heart. If he does not know what is in her heart, he is not burdened with what he does not know. So he may say, "You released me," or "You released me, and if you released me, I do not know what is in your heart."
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : So I am authorized by you to lean toward the other one, and in that case, I am excused with Allah. But despite this, the woman should be frank so that her husband is on clear evidence and insight.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : So either he is able to be just between them, or he is unable, and in that case, he gives her the choice: either she remains as she is, or he divorces her.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : In fact, this choice was also mentioned in the question of the listener M.A.S. from al-Qassim.