Is it permissible for a son to boycott and cut off ties with his parents if they are disobedient to Allah (Mighty and Majestic)?
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The Shaykh : His final question: Is it permissible for them to be angry with him? ... And a question that many fathers and sons are afflicted with in this time. The questioner says: Is it permissible for a son to cut off ties with his parents completely and not ... with them; because they are doing a forbidden act that is contrary to the Shari'ah? And is it permissible for them to be angry with him?
The final question: "Is it permissible for them to be angry with him?" branches off from the answer to the first question. If the answer to the first question is that his anger is permissible, then their anger is not permissible; meaning it does not occur ... And if the answer—as you will hear—is that a son cutting off ties with his father is not permissible; then if the father becomes angry in the case of the son cutting off ties with his father; his anger at that time is permissible and occurs; because it is contrary to the Shari'ah.
The detail of this summary: Our Lord (Mighty and Majestic) says in the clear text of the Noble Qur'an:[Luqman 31:15], so Our Lord (Mighty and Majestic) commanded in this noble verse the son to treat his parents with good companionship, even if they strive to make him disbelieve in his religion ... his mother. So Our Lord (Mighty and Majestic) did not permit the son in this case where his father wants to force him into disbelief and misguidance; He did not permit him to cut off ties with him; rather, He commanded him to treat him with good companionship. And likewise, there is no difference between the father and the mother; and therefore He said (the Exalted): [Luqman 31:15], and we all know that shirk (associating partners with Allah), as it came in the hadith of Abdullah ibn Mas'ud and others, is the greatest of the major sins. So if the parents are polytheists, and not only that, but they also carry their son to associate with his Lord as they associate; despite that, Our Lord (Mighty and Majestic) commands the son to treat his parents with good companionship as long as they remain in the bond of life. So if this is obligatory by the Shari'ah for the son toward the polytheist parents who carry him to shirk; then whatever the matter may be that this Muslim father, the Muslim parent, commits of the forbidden things, as the questioner asks; it is less than shirk, first, because shirk is the greatest of the major sins as mentioned before. Then this father does not carry his son to disobey his Lord as he disobeys his Lord. This is lighter than that polytheist father or the polytheist parents who want to carry their son to shirk. And despite that, Allah (Mighty and Majestic) says: [Luqman 31:15], and the meaning of this is that if a father is found carrying his son to disobey.
... this coercion, all that is in the matter is that the father is committing a forbidden act contrary to the Shari'ah; so is it permissible for the son to cut off ties with him? The answer: No; rather, he must accompany them in this world with kindness. And from the good companionship that Allah (Mighty and Majestic) commanded for the son in this noble verse is that he admonish them:[Luqman 31:13], and the advice of Ibrahim (peace be upon him) to his father Azar in many Qur'anic verses, advising him not to worship trees and stones and the like. So accompanying the parents in this world with kindness necessarily entails always =
-- And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah and His blessings --
= reminding them of what is obligatory upon them of the mindfulness of Allah (Blessed and Exalted is He) and obedience to Him; and therefore, cutting off ties here is not permissible, rather the obligatory is to maintain the connection. And this is confirmed by a hadith in "Sahih al-Bukhari" that Asma bint Abi Bakr's mother came to visit her, and she—meaning Asma's mother—was a polytheist. So she sought permission from the Messenger (peace be upon him) or asked the Messenger (peace be upon him): Does he permit her to visit her? So the Messenger (peace be upon him) agreed with her to visit her, and encouraged her to maintain ties with her as well, and she was a polytheist mother.
In summary: It is not permissible for the righteous son, if he is afflicted with unrighteous parents, to get rid of them by cutting off ties with them. Rather, he must remain serving them throughout their lives, and advise them from time to time, perhaps Allah (Mighty and Majestic) will guide them. As for cutting off ties here, it is undutifulness to parents. And accordingly, it is feared that their supplication against him will be answered; because the supplication of a parent against a child is answered if the other known conditions are met.
The final question: "Is it permissible for them to be angry with him?" branches off from the answer to the first question. If the answer to the first question is that his anger is permissible, then their anger is not permissible; meaning it does not occur ... And if the answer—as you will hear—is that a son cutting off ties with his father is not permissible; then if the father becomes angry in the case of the son cutting off ties with his father; his anger at that time is permissible and occurs; because it is contrary to the Shari'ah.
The detail of this summary: Our Lord (Mighty and Majestic) says in the clear text of the Noble Qur'an:
But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness
وَإِنْ جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَى أَنْ تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًاBut if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness
وَإِنْ جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَى أَنْ تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًاbut accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness
وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا... this coercion, all that is in the matter is that the father is committing a forbidden act contrary to the Shari'ah; so is it permissible for the son to cut off ties with him? The answer: No; rather, he must accompany them in this world with kindness. And from the good companionship that Allah (Mighty and Majestic) commanded for the son in this noble verse is that he admonish them:
And [mention, O Muhammad], when Luqman said to his son while he was instructing him, "O my son, do not associate [anything] with Allah. Indeed, association [with him] is great injustice."
وَإِذْ قَالَ لُقْمَانُ لِابْنِهِ وَهُوَ يَعِظُهُ يَا بُنَيَّ لَا تُشْرِكْ بِاللَّهِ إِنَّ الشِّرْكَ لَظُلْمٌ عَظِيمٌ-- And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah and His blessings --
= reminding them of what is obligatory upon them of the mindfulness of Allah (Blessed and Exalted is He) and obedience to Him; and therefore, cutting off ties here is not permissible, rather the obligatory is to maintain the connection. And this is confirmed by a hadith in "Sahih al-Bukhari" that Asma bint Abi Bakr's mother came to visit her, and she—meaning Asma's mother—was a polytheist. So she sought permission from the Messenger (peace be upon him) or asked the Messenger (peace be upon him): Does he permit her to visit her? So the Messenger (peace be upon him) agreed with her to visit her, and encouraged her to maintain ties with her as well, and she was a polytheist mother.
In summary: It is not permissible for the righteous son, if he is afflicted with unrighteous parents, to get rid of them by cutting off ties with them. Rather, he must remain serving them throughout their lives, and advise them from time to time, perhaps Allah (Mighty and Majestic) will guide them. As for cutting off ties here, it is undutifulness to parents. And accordingly, it is feared that their supplication against him will be answered; because the supplication of a parent against a child is answered if the other known conditions are met.
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