What is your advice for a young man who wants to marry a female relative from the group of the Tabi'iyah?
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The questioner : She is a relative, but she is with the group of the Tabi'iyah. I must ask, Shaykh, have you heard about them, or do you know anything about them? They are followers of Fadi'ah al-Tabi'ah.
The Shaykh : Yes, it was.
The questioner : Well, he is consulting me and asking, "What is your opinion? Do you advise me to do this?" I told him, "Honestly, I do not know anything about them. I have heard of them, but I do not know this. However, let us ask our Shaykh, perhaps he will benefit us, if Allah wills, and advise you..." He is in a hurry, of course, because today is the appointment to decide on the matter, because after the 'Asr prayer he and his mother and his maternal aunt are going to go. What is your opinion, Shaykh, regarding this situation?
The Shaykh : How old is he?
The questioner : He is twenty-seven years old, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : The fiancée will be his relative?
The questioner : Yes, she is his aunt's daughter, his maternal aunt's daughter. But he tells me she has been in the group for ten years.
The questioner: Yes ...
The Shaykh : This answer to the question is not correct if we make it singular. We need to ask him: since she is your relative, what is the degree of kinship?
The questioner : I do not remember.
The Shaykh : He did not tell you. Since she is your relative, it is permissible for you to know something about her. If she is stubborn and not gentle in nature...
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Then it is not good for him to marry her, because these are, as they say today, doctrinal issues. And one of our old friends named Ziyad... do you know him?
The questioner : I know him well.
The Shaykh : You know him well. So he married a woman in addition to his old, righteous, obedient wife.
The student: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace... from these people, yes. As they say in our region in Sham, "She is like the stars of the sky in the daytime."
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Yes, and she caused him problems and filed a lawsuit against him, and it was a terrible affair. It seems that to the extent she is firm and determined, he is soft, so the opposite must be the case.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Now, you are hovering around the two contrasting points. If he is a man of will, chivalry, strength, determination, and firmness, and the opposite is the case for her, she may improve with time. Because they do what they do, as I told you, it is a doctrinal issue. Have you seen these people... that their jilbab is short, to the middle of the leg.
The questioner : That is correct, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Ah, and she objectedThe Shaykh : to their way, but no one listened, and this is contrary to the Sunnah, and even to the Qur'an. And this slogan is not permissible. But it seems that her plan and methodology in da'wah is like the plan of the Muslim Brotherhood, which they call "printing from the printer's house." Her Shaykhah, I do not know her name, is al-Qubaysiyyah in Damascus. And I met her, do you know... the one who came here.
The questioner : I know him well, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Ah, he has a sister who was influenced by this al-Qubaysiyyah. And he struggled greatly with her without benefit. In the end, he suggested to me that I meet her.
The Shaykh : ... in the lands of the disbelievers.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : She is studying there, what?
The questioner : Medicine.
The Shaykh : Medicine. May Allah help you. Are you not with a wife?
The questioner : No, this is your advice regarding marriage.
The Shaykh : It is necessary, especially at your age. You must protect yourself. Welcome, excuse me, may Allah bless you, may Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : Yes, it was.
The questioner : Well, he is consulting me and asking, "What is your opinion? Do you advise me to do this?" I told him, "Honestly, I do not know anything about them. I have heard of them, but I do not know this. However, let us ask our Shaykh, perhaps he will benefit us, if Allah wills, and advise you..." He is in a hurry, of course, because today is the appointment to decide on the matter, because after the 'Asr prayer he and his mother and his maternal aunt are going to go. What is your opinion, Shaykh, regarding this situation?
The Shaykh : How old is he?
The questioner : He is twenty-seven years old, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : The fiancée will be his relative?
The questioner : Yes, she is his aunt's daughter, his maternal aunt's daughter. But he tells me she has been in the group for ten years.
The questioner: Yes ...
The Shaykh : This answer to the question is not correct if we make it singular. We need to ask him: since she is your relative, what is the degree of kinship?
The questioner : I do not remember.
The Shaykh : He did not tell you. Since she is your relative, it is permissible for you to know something about her. If she is stubborn and not gentle in nature...
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Then it is not good for him to marry her, because these are, as they say today, doctrinal issues. And one of our old friends named Ziyad... do you know him?
The questioner : I know him well.
The Shaykh : You know him well. So he married a woman in addition to his old, righteous, obedient wife.
The student: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace... from these people, yes. As they say in our region in Sham, "She is like the stars of the sky in the daytime."
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Yes, and she caused him problems and filed a lawsuit against him, and it was a terrible affair. It seems that to the extent she is firm and determined, he is soft, so the opposite must be the case.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Now, you are hovering around the two contrasting points. If he is a man of will, chivalry, strength, determination, and firmness, and the opposite is the case for her, she may improve with time. Because they do what they do, as I told you, it is a doctrinal issue. Have you seen these people... that their jilbab is short, to the middle of the leg.
The questioner : That is correct, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Ah, and she objectedThe Shaykh : to their way, but no one listened, and this is contrary to the Sunnah, and even to the Qur'an. And this slogan is not permissible. But it seems that her plan and methodology in da'wah is like the plan of the Muslim Brotherhood, which they call "printing from the printer's house." Her Shaykhah, I do not know her name, is al-Qubaysiyyah in Damascus. And I met her, do you know... the one who came here.
The questioner : I know him well, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Ah, he has a sister who was influenced by this al-Qubaysiyyah. And he struggled greatly with her without benefit. In the end, he suggested to me that I meet her.
The Shaykh : ... in the lands of the disbelievers.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : She is studying there, what?
The questioner : Medicine.
The Shaykh : Medicine. May Allah help you. Are you not with a wife?
The questioner : No, this is your advice regarding marriage.
The Shaykh : It is necessary, especially at your age. You must protect yourself. Welcome, excuse me, may Allah bless you, may Allah reward you with good.
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