What is your opinion regarding the widespread practice among people of not marrying a suitable young man because of one of his parents, particularly when he has a mother whom he supports and cares for, and who is of good character?

The questioner : He says:The questioner : Noble Shaykh, what is your opinion regarding the widespread practice among people these days of not marrying a suitable young man because of one of his parents, for example his mother or his father, particularly when he has a mother whom he supports and cares for? This is not desirable, given that he is religious and of good character and religion. And what is your opinion regarding the multitude of conditions, especially the requirement for an independent residence, that she continue working, having a maid, and other such conditions? May Allah guide you.

The Shaykh : And the television is present! I say that this is short-sightedness to reject a suitable suitor because of his mother and father. Yes, if it is known that the mother and father have bad character, then it is permissible to condition the husband that if the woman does not find it pleasant to live with her mother and father, she has the right to request another residence. If this condition is made, the concern is removed and it becomes obligatory to fulfill it, due to the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): And if this woman or her guardian rejects this suitor because he has a father and a mother, when will a suitor come to them who has no father and mother? Perhaps a suitor will come who has no father and mother, but he has bad character, or is deficient in religion. Then the woman remains unmarried until the desire for her passes, and then she regrets it. For this reason, among the common proverbs is: "Every delay is a choice, except for marriage and the fruit". Do you understand? Every delay is a choice, except for marriage and the fruit. The fruit, when it ripens, you do not leave it to spoil. And marriage, when its time comes, you rely upon Allah, whether it is a woman or a man. Delay is harmful. Every day that passes for the young man or young woman after their youth, their ambition and desire weaken, their strength cools, and they become weaker. So I say that this theory is wrong, except in the case I mentioned and excluded, which is what? If it is known about his father and mother that they have bad character, then the wife may condition and say: if it is pleasant for me to live, I will live with them, otherwise I have the right to demand another residence. And if this condition is completed, it is a valid condition.