Continuation: Some people have adopted certain customs before and after marriage, including what is called the ring, which is worn by both the man and the woman, and the necklace.

The Shaykh : As for the necklace: By Allah, I do not know whether the meaning of "necklace" is that it links the two spouses? Or is it an expression of the wife's acceptance of the husband and the husband's acceptance of the wife? It appears that this is what it is. In the past, in our time, they used to call it: "Qadab al-Raqabah, or Qadabat al-Raqabah". And "Qadab" means what? Holding. When a man proposed to a woman, he would send her jewelry called "Qadabat al-Qadab". The later generations call it a necklace. I do not think there is any harm in it, and that there is no blame in it. But the prohibited thing is that I have heard in some countries that the man brings the necklace, which includes a pendant, and puts it on the wife and puts it on the woman to whom he has proposed. This is forbidden. The woman to whom a man has proposed is like a woman in the market with her suitor; it is not permissible for him to take any pleasure from her. And this leads us to an issue, which is that some suitors, when they propose to a woman, start talking to her on the phone a lot, until it reached me that some of them spend the whole night—winter nights are not clear nights—talking to her. Yes? We have heard this. And this is forbidden. Is the woman now his wife or not his wife? Not his wife. How does he talk to her? And is it conceivable that he talks to her? This long conversation without his desire being stirred? That is far-fetched. Some people come and tell you: By Allah, I talk to her to see what culture she has! And what culture she has! If you enter her home, then you test her. But now, she is a stranger to you; she is not permissible for you, and you are not permissible for her. These are two. The first: the ring. The second: the necklace.
The third: the morning gift given to the wife on the morning of the wedding, the morning of the marriage. This is also one of the customs in which we see no harm. It is a widespread custom among people, and it serves to reconcile the wife and please her, so there is nothing wrong with it.
The fourth: "al-fatashah", strange words, meaning, what does "al-fatashah" mean? It means: the wife's mother is not allowed to uncover her face in the presence of the husband. But when the husband inspects, he needs, needs something. I have not heard of this except now. Have you heard of it before? Yes?

The questioner : It exists.

The Shaykh : It exists? It is called "al-fatashah." By Allah, I am holding back on this until I reflect on it, until I reflect on it, yes.