Continuing the discussion on plural marriage.

The questioner : My Shaykh, I say that regarding this topic, we have experience among the brothers in this field, in marriage and in the area of plural marriage, that many of the brothers who want to marry, Shaykh, if we say she is dark-skinned, he says she is not suitable for me; if we say her age is such-and-such, he says she is not suitable for me; if we say she has a slight limp, he says she is not suitable for me; if we say she has a mole in her eye, he says she is not suitable for me. So, as I said once in your saying, "For every one who falls in the village, there is a picker," if we remain on one pattern, we say that the marriage involving plural marriage brings about harm and fitnah in society and is not suitable in this time. And if we start with this speech, these women will remain, as we see in our society now, divorced with no husband, having two or three children, with no husband. And as I heard once in some of your fatwas, you issued a fatwa for a woman that she should stay with her husband because he is a drunkard and leaves off prayer, and she said, "What should I do? Now men do not accept a divorced woman." So I said, "You have your day" . And so, if we combine these matters together, the proportion of women is much greater than men, and the righteous among men are fewer and fewer and rare. So, plural marriage is a great blessing from the blessings of Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He, upon the Islamic society Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He. And if we issue a ruling on the problems that arise in homes due to plural marriage, such as saying barriers... in this time, there are many; do not ride in cars, plane crashes are frequent, do not ride in planes. So we say to women, as our Lord, Blessed and Exalted is He, said . So this marriage in which the woman sees harm for herself, perhaps there is much good for her in patience, and for her in the children, and for her in worldly service. So, and Allah knows best, to lean absolutely toward not engaging in plural marriage in this time, I see, and Allah knows best, especially in our Islamic society, and if the time becomes corrupt, it increases harm for the women who do not find men for the sake of marriage. So I liked this point, so that I, and I know for certain that my opinion is like your opinion, my Shaykh.

The Shaykh : May Allah reward you with good, but what you mentioned just now is sufficient to clarify the truth in this matter, and that what is suitable for Zayd is not suitable for 'Amr.

The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.

The Shaykh : And what is not suitable for 'Amr may be suitable for Zayd, and observing the restrictions and conditions, whether they are those explicitly stated in the Book and the Sunnah, such as justice and ability, or those derived from applying the rules previously mentioned, these are matters that must truly be adhered to.

The questioner : Yes, exactly.

The Shaykh : Whether one marries one or two, the issue is not merely an issue of duality; whenever a Muslim marries a woman, he must adhere to the restrictions and conditions imposed by the wise Lawgiver, whether they are explicit texts or derived. And the truth is that it is not permissible to speak absolutely in urging dual marriage, nor to speak absolutely in prohibiting it, because there is harm in both. Rather, as we said just now, the original ruling for plural marriage is permissibility, without doubt, but no general rule should be established urging or prohibiting it. And I mentioned just now a very sensitive example: a man, for instance, has a strong constitution and a strong desire, so one wife is not sufficient for him, no matter how strong or active she is, etc. So the one who does not know this reality says, "Why, my brother, did this man marry a second time? He has, by Allah's will, a young, strong, and beautiful wife."
The Shaykh: My brother, do not intervene between a man and his wife. Do not get involved in matters where it is impossible to know the truth. Let the Shari'ah ruling proceed, but all you have to do is mention .

The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, my Shaykh.

The Shaykh : And you as well.

The questioner : A question regarding women.

The Shaykh : ... Our brothers, we always call them.

The questioner : ... .

The Shaykh : As for us, we do not have the honor of you, and Allah knows best...