What is the meaning of a husband saying about his wife that she "does not turn away the hand of a toucher"?
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The questioner : Professor, what is the meaning of the phrase "does not turn away the hand of a toucher"? The man who came to ask the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) about it—was the intention that she was committing lewdness, or what does it mean?
The Shaykh : No, no, that is not the intention. The intention is that she was a simple, naive woman, kind-hearted, who did not notice the scheming of young men. Perhaps one of them would reach for a part of her body, and it would happen that her husband saw that, so he was overcome with jealousy, while she was not there, meaning she was simple. This is the intention.Bulugh al-Maram 8:156 It is impossible that the intention was that she would consent to anyone who wanted her, because if that were the case, it would mean the husband was accusing her of fornication. In that case, the matter would require demanding four witnesses, or mutual oath-swearing, and none of that occurred. Rather, when he (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Divorce her," if it had been a case of fornication and he had said "Divorce her," he would have said, "Produce the witnesses, or we will stone you or flog you." He said, "I love her." He said, "Then keep her." So the matter concerns the preliminaries of fornication on one hand, and on the other hand, she did not intend these preliminaries because of her simplicity and the goodness of her heart.
The questioner : Meaning, he is not considered a coward?
The Shaykh : No, it is jealousy.
The Shaykh : No, no, that is not the intention. The intention is that she was a simple, naive woman, kind-hearted, who did not notice the scheming of young men. Perhaps one of them would reach for a part of her body, and it would happen that her husband saw that, so he was overcome with jealousy, while she was not there, meaning she was simple. This is the intention.
rejects no hand of a man who wished to touch her
لا ترد يد لامسThe questioner : Meaning, he is not considered a coward?
The Shaykh : No, it is jealousy.
