Which is better in marriage: marriage to a relative or marriage to a non-relative, and is there evidence for this?
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The questioner : In the books of Islamic jurisprudence, specifically the books of the Hanbali school—may Allah have mercy on them—in the chapter on marriage, they say regarding the woman: "It is better that the woman not be one of his relatives". Is there anything established from the Sunnah that supports this or contradicts it? They say in some books that it is better that she not be one of his relatives?
The Shaykh : This is the view held by some people. Some scholars adopted this view for two benefits. The first benefit is that it is more productive for offspring, meaning that it draws upon the lineage of his mother if she is from a tribe and the lineage of his father if he is from a tribe, so the child combines the character traits of both these groups.
The second benefit is that it is safer from severing ties, because a disagreement may arise between him and his wife that leads to the severing of kinship ties, not just between the husband and wife, but between all the relatives on both sides.
However, the general statement of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him):Sahih Muslim 1466 includes both close and distant relatives. It is not hidden from us that 'Ali ibn Abi Talib married Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her), who was his cousin. It was not the closest cousin, but rather the father of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) was the uncle of 'Ali ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him). Therefore, the correct view is that one should not pay attention to closeness or distance in kinship, but rather pay attention to what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) guided to: Sunan Ibn Majah 1858Sahih (Darussalam).
The Shaykh : This is the view held by some people. Some scholars adopted this view for two benefits. The first benefit is that it is more productive for offspring, meaning that it draws upon the lineage of his mother if she is from a tribe and the lineage of his father if he is from a tribe, so the child combines the character traits of both these groups.
The second benefit is that it is safer from severing ties, because a disagreement may arise between him and his wife that leads to the severing of kinship ties, not just between the husband and wife, but between all the relatives on both sides.
However, the general statement of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him):
