Is it permissible for a Muslim woman to decline attending weddings, even if she is specifically invited, due to the presence of much evil in this wedding?
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The questioner : Your Eminence! Regarding a Muslim woman attending wedding invitations: if the wedding includes revealing clothing that exposes the back, chest, legs, and part of the thigh, and if she objects, she is mocked and rejected, but if she congratulates and leaves, her honor is attacked.
The Shaykh : her honor
The questioner : her honor, is it permissible to decline the invitation if she is specifically named in the invitation?
The Shaykh : And what else?
The questioner : specifically named, and the weddings take place at the same time, and money and time are spent in preparation for them, is it permissible for her to stay in her house and not respond to these invitations?
The Shaykh : I will give you a rule regarding wedding invitations and others: if there is evil, then if the one who responds can change the evil by attending, it is obligatory for him to attend to change the evil. If he cannot, it is forbidden for him to attend. Accordingly, if a woman is invited to a wedding that includes evil, such as beating drums or zirs, or silly songs, or if the clothing includes forbidden attire, it is not permissible for her to go. This means: it is obligatory for her to stay in her house and not respond to this invitation.
Someone might say: What if this wedding is for a relative, such as a brother or a son, or the like? We say: Even if it is for the closest relative, it is said to him: Are you willing not to commit this forbidden act? Then it is on my head and shoulders. Will you persist in the forbidden act? Then I will not participate with you in it. If people did this, much of the material for evil would be resolved. But people are polite regarding this forbidden thing, saying: This is a relative, this is a brother, this is a son, this is an uncle, this is a paternal uncle. It is said: The pleasure of Allah is above all pleasure. If people boycotted these weddings that include the forbidden, if they boycotted them, people would abandon this forbidden act.
The Shaykh : her honor
The questioner : her honor, is it permissible to decline the invitation if she is specifically named in the invitation?
The Shaykh : And what else?
The questioner : specifically named, and the weddings take place at the same time, and money and time are spent in preparation for them, is it permissible for her to stay in her house and not respond to these invitations?
The Shaykh : I will give you a rule regarding wedding invitations and others: if there is evil, then if the one who responds can change the evil by attending, it is obligatory for him to attend to change the evil. If he cannot, it is forbidden for him to attend. Accordingly, if a woman is invited to a wedding that includes evil, such as beating drums or zirs, or silly songs, or if the clothing includes forbidden attire, it is not permissible for her to go. This means: it is obligatory for her to stay in her house and not respond to this invitation.
Someone might say: What if this wedding is for a relative, such as a brother or a son, or the like? We say: Even if it is for the closest relative, it is said to him: Are you willing not to commit this forbidden act? Then it is on my head and shoulders. Will you persist in the forbidden act? Then I will not participate with you in it. If people did this, much of the material for evil would be resolved. But people are polite regarding this forbidden thing, saying: This is a relative, this is a brother, this is a son, this is an uncle, this is a paternal uncle. It is said: The pleasure of Allah is above all pleasure. If people boycotted these weddings that include the forbidden, if they boycotted them, people would abandon this forbidden act.