What is the ruling on attending mixed-gender wedding events?
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The questioner : What is the ruling on attending mixed-gender wedding events?
The Shaykh : Attending wedding parties that contain what is wrong, such as free mixing of men and women, musical instruments, or forbidden singing, falls into three categories. The first category is to attend and not forbid what is wrong; this is forbidden, and the attendee is a partner to the people of the house in their sin, based on the saying of Allah (Blessed and Exalted is He):[An-Nisa 4:140].
The second category is to attend and forbid what is wrong, and for his forbidding to have an effect in causing them to leave it off. In this case, attendance is obligatory, because it is a response to the invitation from one angle and the removal of what is wrong from another angle.
The third category is to attend and not be pleased with their action and to feel aversion toward it. In this case, he must work to eliminate this wrong. If he succeeds in doing so, that is fine; otherwise, it is obligatory for him to leave. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you and bless you.
The Shaykh : Attending wedding parties that contain what is wrong, such as free mixing of men and women, musical instruments, or forbidden singing, falls into three categories. The first category is to attend and not forbid what is wrong; this is forbidden, and the attendee is a partner to the people of the house in their sin, based on the saying of Allah (Blessed and Exalted is He):
And it has already come down to you in the Book that when you hear the verses of Allah [recited], they are denied [by them] and ridiculed; so do not sit with them until they enter into another conversation. Indeed, you would then be like them
وَقَدْ نَزَّلَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِي الْكِتَابِ أَنْ إِذَا سَمِعْتُمْ ءايَاتِ اللَّهِ يُكْفَرُ بِهَا وَيُسْتَهْزَأُ بِهَا فَلا تَقْعُدُوا مَعَهُمْ حَتَّى يَخُوضُوا فِي حَدِيثٍ غَيْرِهِ إِنَّكُمْ إِذًا مِثْلُهُمْThe second category is to attend and forbid what is wrong, and for his forbidding to have an effect in causing them to leave it off. In this case, attendance is obligatory, because it is a response to the invitation from one angle and the removal of what is wrong from another angle.
The third category is to attend and not be pleased with their action and to feel aversion toward it. In this case, he must work to eliminate this wrong. If he succeeds in doing so, that is fine; otherwise, it is obligatory for him to leave. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you and bless you.