Ruling on Responding to an Invitation to a Party Containing Prohibited Matters
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Your Eminence! Regarding a Muslim woman attending wedding invitations: if the wedding includes immodest clothing that exposes the back, chest, legs, and part of the thigh, and if she objects, they mock and reject her, but if she congratulates them and leaves, they attack her reputation. Is it permissible for her not to respond, even if she is specifically invited by name? Weddings often take place at the same time, and money and time are spent preparing for them. Is it permissible for her to stay in her home and not respond to these invitations?
I will give you a rule regarding wedding invitations and others: If there is a prohibited matter, then if the one responding can change the prohibited matter upon attending, it is obligatory for him to attend to change it. If he cannot, it is forbidden for him to attend. Accordingly, if a woman is invited to a wedding that includes a prohibited matter, such as beating a drum or a flute, or singing silly songs, or if the clothing includes forbidden attire, it is not permissible for her to go.Meaning: It is obligatory for her to stay in her home and not respond to this invitation.
Someone might say: What if this wedding is for a relative, such as a brother or a son, or the like?We say: Even if it is for the closest relative,It is said to him: Are you willing not to commit this forbidden act? Then it is upon my eyes and head. Will you persist in the forbidden act? Then I will not participate with you in it. If people did this, it would cut off many avenues of evil. But some people are polite in this forbidden matter.He says: This is a relative, this is a brother, this is a son, this is a maternal uncle, this is a paternal uncle.It is said: The pleasure of Allah is above all pleasure. If people boycotted these weddings that include the forbidden, people would leave the forbidden.
I will give you a rule regarding wedding invitations and others: If there is a prohibited matter, then if the one responding can change the prohibited matter upon attending, it is obligatory for him to attend to change it. If he cannot, it is forbidden for him to attend. Accordingly, if a woman is invited to a wedding that includes a prohibited matter, such as beating a drum or a flute, or singing silly songs, or if the clothing includes forbidden attire, it is not permissible for her to go.Meaning: It is obligatory for her to stay in her home and not respond to this invitation.
Someone might say: What if this wedding is for a relative, such as a brother or a son, or the like?We say: Even if it is for the closest relative,It is said to him: Are you willing not to commit this forbidden act? Then it is upon my eyes and head. Will you persist in the forbidden act? Then I will not participate with you in it. If people did this, it would cut off many avenues of evil. But some people are polite in this forbidden matter.He says: This is a relative, this is a brother, this is a son, this is a maternal uncle, this is a paternal uncle.It is said: The pleasure of Allah is above all pleasure. If people boycotted these weddings that include the forbidden, people would leave the forbidden.