What is your advice for a woman who has defied her husband?
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The questioner : May Allah bless your evening, everyone, and may He reward you.
The Shaykh : May Allah bless everyone's evening.
The questioner : A man has been married to a woman for thirty years, and they have sons and daughters. For the past five years, her brothers have interfered in their marital life, turning her against her husband until she disobeyed him and cut off her marital relations with him. She now veils herself from him, does not show herself to him, and does not speak to him. The people of good tried to clarify the reason with her, but her answer was that this is a private matter between her and her husband. She has remained separated from him until now. What do you advise her to do, so that perhaps Allah will guide her? May Allah preserve you and reward you with good.
The Shaykh : First: I hope that what you heard is not true, namely that her brothers turned her against her husband, because turning a woman against her husband is one of the greatest sins, and may Allah protect us from that. The one who does so is exposed to the hatred and anger of Allah. It is obligatory for them, if this is true, to repent to Allah and to make the woman love her husband instead of turning her against him. They should advise her, mention the husband's good qualities, and explain to her the punishment for a woman who defies her husband. This is the first point.
Second: As for the woman, I advise her to return to her husband and to his obedience. I convey to her what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Bulugh al-Maram 8:66 So let her return to her husband and enter the house of obedience. As for her husband, I do not know if there is a reason on his part that causes her to be repelled by him, or not?
The Shaykh : May Allah bless everyone's evening.
The questioner : A man has been married to a woman for thirty years, and they have sons and daughters. For the past five years, her brothers have interfered in their marital life, turning her against her husband until she disobeyed him and cut off her marital relations with him. She now veils herself from him, does not show herself to him, and does not speak to him. The people of good tried to clarify the reason with her, but her answer was that this is a private matter between her and her husband. She has remained separated from him until now. What do you advise her to do, so that perhaps Allah will guide her? May Allah preserve you and reward you with good.
The Shaykh : First: I hope that what you heard is not true, namely that her brothers turned her against her husband, because turning a woman against her husband is one of the greatest sins, and may Allah protect us from that. The one who does so is exposed to the hatred and anger of Allah. It is obligatory for them, if this is true, to repent to Allah and to make the woman love her husband instead of turning her against him. They should advise her, mention the husband's good qualities, and explain to her the punishment for a woman who defies her husband. This is the first point.
Second: As for the woman, I advise her to return to her husband and to his obedience. I convey to her what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: