The ruling on a woman who defies her husband due to the instigation of her brothers between them
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Honorable Shaykh! A man has been married to a woman for thirty years, and he has sons and daughters from her. For the past five years, her brothers have interfered in their marital life, turning her against her husband until she disobeyed him and cut off her marital relations with him. She has even become secluded from him, not appearing before him and not speaking to him. The people of good tried to clarify the reason with her,So her answer was: but she said that this is a private matter of hers, and she has remained separated from him until now. What do you advise her to do, perhaps Allah will guide her? May Allah preserve you, and may Allah reward you with good.
First: I hope that what I heard is not true, that her brothers turned her against her husband; because turning a woman against her husband is one of the greatest sins—may Allah protect us from that—and the one who does it is exposed to the anger and wrath of Allah. So it is obligatory for them, if this is true, to repent to Allah, and to make the woman love her husband instead of turning her against him, to advise her, to mention the husband's good qualities, and to explain to her the punishment for a woman who defies her husband. This is the first point.
Second: As for the woman, I advise her to return to her home and to her obedience,And convey to her what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: (When a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses to come, the angels curse her until morning, and the one in the sky is angry with her) So let her return to her husband and enter the house of obedience.
As for her husband, I do not know if there is a reason from his side that necessitates her aversion to him or not? If so, it is obligatory for him to treat her well and apologize to her for what came from him. And if there is no reason from his side, it is obligatory for her to return. And how wonderful it would be if one of the people of good intervened to reconcile between them.
First: I hope that what I heard is not true, that her brothers turned her against her husband; because turning a woman against her husband is one of the greatest sins—may Allah protect us from that—and the one who does it is exposed to the anger and wrath of Allah. So it is obligatory for them, if this is true, to repent to Allah, and to make the woman love her husband instead of turning her against him, to advise her, to mention the husband's good qualities, and to explain to her the punishment for a woman who defies her husband. This is the first point.
Second: As for the woman, I advise her to return to her home and to her obedience,And convey to her what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: (When a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses to come, the angels curse her until morning, and the one in the sky is angry with her) So let her return to her husband and enter the house of obedience.
As for her husband, I do not know if there is a reason from his side that necessitates her aversion to him or not? If so, it is obligatory for him to treat her well and apologize to her for what came from him. And if there is no reason from his side, it is obligatory for her to return. And how wonderful it would be if one of the people of good intervened to reconcile between them.