Does a child come into the world with his provision already with him? (Discussion)
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The questioner : This kind of matter needs to be studied: does a child come into the world with his provision already with him?
The Shaykh : Yes, but this does not mean that we do not take the means.
The questioner : We take the means, we strive, we go out and work, and we do our best, and Allah is blessing us and preparing things for us.
The Shaykh : In any case, you do not need to attack so much. You build up ideas and opinions without having benefited from the scholars. What do you think now? Like this one who asked, whose name is Abu Muhammad, do you know him?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : His father’s earnings are forbidden, and now he is 24 years old and not married. What do you think? Should he marry four wives?
The questioner : This is a difference between the Muslim man.
The Shaykh : Do not learn from others how to be evasive and go around in circles without knowledge.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : No, he is not asking. Pay attention to what the question is.
The questioner : A man.
The Shaykh : Not married, 24 years old, 20 years old, 30 years old, it does not matter. He is an employee in a pharmacy. What do you think? Should he marry four wives? On the grounds that the children’s provision is in the sky and you are not to be deceived. What do you think?
The questioner : Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) prepares their provision.
The Shaykh : No, no, no. Do not advise someone to marry four wives.
The questioner : I heard from your tape.
The Shaykh : Do not evade.
The questioner : Allow me a moment.
The Shaykh : No, I do not allow you.
The questioner: All right.
The Shaykh : I allow you to answer.
The questioner : I answer: I advise him to marry, meaning he wants to marry.
The Shaykh : My question is limited.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : He marries four wives: this one today, this one the next day, this one the third day, and this one the fourth day. He has neither a house nor a regular salary; he is an employee.
The questioner : No, I do not advise it.
The Shaykh : Why?
The questioner : Because he does not have the capability for this matter.
The Shaykh : Well, where did your statement go that the children do not come and their provision is recorded?
The questioner : Before he marries, there is no shelter for them here. If he had shelter...
The Shaykh : Do not tell me anything I already know. He has no shelter. I told you that, not you. You are repeating my words back to me. Why is he not marrying? Because he did not take the means.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And this is what I told you earlier: it is true that the provision of the children is written while they are in their mothers’ wombs, but it is necessary to take the means. This is a very important aspect, because you know that it is not only the provision that is written; the lifespan is written, the provision is written, happiness is written, and misery is written, right?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Well, what do you think of a person who lives until he reaches the age of accountability and says, “If I was written as happy in my mother’s womb, I will die happy. I will not exhaust myself in this life. And if I was written as miserable, what is the benefit of my effort in obedience and worship, and this is forbidden and this is not permissible, and so on”? What will your answer be? No, the means must be taken. So keep that in mind: the means must be taken in everything, and one does not rely on what is written. As they say in an old song, “What is written on the forehead, the eye must see.” This is a true statement, but relying on it and turning away from holding fast to the means that qualify the Muslim to be happy is not from Islam. Likewise, the one who wants to marry one wife: if he is a man who sleeps in the streets, who sleeps in the streets, who has no shelter, even if he has... then it is said, meaning, he marries. It is not said to him, “Take the means.” Similarly, the one who wants to take a second, third, or fourth wife is treated in the same way.
The questioner : Yes, he takes the means.
The Shaykh : But one who says, “My salary is such and such, and I have a wife, and if I want to marry a second wife, I need a second provision. And if I want to have children, I will have a child every year. I cannot support them.” His faith is weak. Why? Because he did not believe in the divine decree, and he does not know... Second, the matter requires a precise balance.
The questioner : May Allah bless you.
The Shaykh : Yes, but this does not mean that we do not take the means.
The questioner : We take the means, we strive, we go out and work, and we do our best, and Allah is blessing us and preparing things for us.
The Shaykh : In any case, you do not need to attack so much. You build up ideas and opinions without having benefited from the scholars. What do you think now? Like this one who asked, whose name is Abu Muhammad, do you know him?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : His father’s earnings are forbidden, and now he is 24 years old and not married. What do you think? Should he marry four wives?
The questioner : This is a difference between the Muslim man.
The Shaykh : Do not learn from others how to be evasive and go around in circles without knowledge.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : No, he is not asking. Pay attention to what the question is.
The questioner : A man.
The Shaykh : Not married, 24 years old, 20 years old, 30 years old, it does not matter. He is an employee in a pharmacy. What do you think? Should he marry four wives? On the grounds that the children’s provision is in the sky and you are not to be deceived. What do you think?
The questioner : Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) prepares their provision.
The Shaykh : No, no, no. Do not advise someone to marry four wives.
The questioner : I heard from your tape.
The Shaykh : Do not evade.
The questioner : Allow me a moment.
The Shaykh : No, I do not allow you.
The questioner: All right.
The Shaykh : I allow you to answer.
The questioner : I answer: I advise him to marry, meaning he wants to marry.
The Shaykh : My question is limited.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : He marries four wives: this one today, this one the next day, this one the third day, and this one the fourth day. He has neither a house nor a regular salary; he is an employee.
The questioner : No, I do not advise it.
The Shaykh : Why?
The questioner : Because he does not have the capability for this matter.
The Shaykh : Well, where did your statement go that the children do not come and their provision is recorded?
The questioner : Before he marries, there is no shelter for them here. If he had shelter...
The Shaykh : Do not tell me anything I already know. He has no shelter. I told you that, not you. You are repeating my words back to me. Why is he not marrying? Because he did not take the means.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And this is what I told you earlier: it is true that the provision of the children is written while they are in their mothers’ wombs, but it is necessary to take the means. This is a very important aspect, because you know that it is not only the provision that is written; the lifespan is written, the provision is written, happiness is written, and misery is written, right?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Well, what do you think of a person who lives until he reaches the age of accountability and says, “If I was written as happy in my mother’s womb, I will die happy. I will not exhaust myself in this life. And if I was written as miserable, what is the benefit of my effort in obedience and worship, and this is forbidden and this is not permissible, and so on”? What will your answer be? No, the means must be taken. So keep that in mind: the means must be taken in everything, and one does not rely on what is written. As they say in an old song, “What is written on the forehead, the eye must see.” This is a true statement, but relying on it and turning away from holding fast to the means that qualify the Muslim to be happy is not from Islam. Likewise, the one who wants to marry one wife: if he is a man who sleeps in the streets, who sleeps in the streets, who has no shelter, even if he has... then it is said, meaning, he marries. It is not said to him, “Take the means.” Similarly, the one who wants to take a second, third, or fourth wife is treated in the same way.
The questioner : Yes, he takes the means.
The Shaykh : But one who says, “My salary is such and such, and I have a wife, and if I want to marry a second wife, I need a second provision. And if I want to have children, I will have a child every year. I cannot support them.” His faith is weak. Why? Because he did not believe in the divine decree, and he does not know... Second, the matter requires a precise balance.
The questioner : May Allah bless you.
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