The Ruling on Giving Charity and Maintaining Ties with Disbelievers and Open Sinners

Question:
If one gives, for example, to such open sinners and others, might some of this money be used for smoke or disobedience?

Answer:
It might be used for shirk (associating partners with Allah), or for something even greater. But you must strive and seek out the causes of good. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered Asma' to maintain ties with her mother, who was a disbeliever. And they might use this money to support what Allah does not approve of. Allah says: [Al-Mumtahanah:8], regardless of the deeds in which they might spend the money.
Q: And it would not be considered cooperating with them in...?
The Shaykh: No, if they are not at war with us, there is no harm. That one who is at war is not given anything, not a little or a lot. The one at war is not given even a single qirsh; he is not given anything, because this is showing support to the Muslims, and it would be apostasy from Islam: [Al-Ma'idah:51]. So those who are at war with us are not given anything, nor are they helped in any way whatsoever.
Q: So the ties are only through money, or can they be with...?
The Shaykh: Ties are through money, kind words, supplication, advice, reminding of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) , and the like.
Q: Abu Jumrah's statement implies that if they are open sinners, one does not maintain ties with them but rather cuts them off?
The Shaykh: He mentioned supplication, but he missed some of the point. His statement is good, but he missed that there is no objection to maintaining ties with them through money as well, if their Islam is hoped for, or to restrain their evil. There is no harm in that.
Q: Visiting them, are they not to be visited?
The Shaykh: Except if it is for a benefit and seeking guidance, like when the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) visited his uncle Abu Talib and called him to Allah, and like when he visited the Jewish boy who served him, may Allah guide him through his means, when he was sick. That is, one seeks good and seeks their Islam. It is not for the sake of mere kinship, but for Islamic objectives, either to seek their guidance so that perhaps he may be guided in this state, like when the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) visited Abu Talib, and visited his sick servant.
Or for another matter, which is restraining evil and repelling evil from the Muslims. The one being won over might be evil, might be wicked, might be seeking to harm the Muslims. So if a relative or non-relative sees that giving him money will repel his evil, like how the disbelievers were given money to repel their evil.
Q: Meaning, one looks at what is most beneficial?
The Shaykh: One looks at what is most beneficial. As for supplication, it is absolute... but giving money, or visiting, or visiting the sick, these are matters of consideration; if he sees in it good or the repelling of evil, he does it, otherwise he leaves it.
Q: If there is amusement and free mixing of men and women in visiting them, is it permissible to visit them?
The Shaykh: It depends on the intention; if his intention is to love them or to be comfortable with them, he does not visit them. But if he visits them to call them to Allah and guide them, then even if they are worshipping an idol or if they are with an idol, he calls them to Allah, and says this is what is wrong, this is shirk (associating partners with Allah), and this is not permissible for you, and the like.
And he starts with shirk before the amusements if they are polytheists; he starts by forbidding them from shirk, and the amusements come later if they become Muslims.