Advice to the wife and her husband's mother to be patient, endure, and stay away from problems

Question:
A letter signed by one of the sisters from al-Ghat, saying Umm Abdullah. Umm Abdullah complains about her son's wife, and says: She often attacks her and hurts her with her tongue. This problem repeats often, Your Eminence. Either the son's wife complains about her husband's mother, or the husband's mother complains about her son's wife, and so on, and so on?

Answer:
I advise everyone to be forbearing, patient, and enduring. I advise the mother to endure from her son's wife so that divorce does not occur. She should advise her and recommend to her with kind words: "O daughter of so-and-so, fear Allah, leave this talk." She should recommend to her with kind words, or ignore her words as if she does not hear them, so that there is no discord between her and her husband. And I advise the wife, if the harm is from the mother, to endure, to be patient, and to address her in the best manner. "O my aunt, such and such! O mother of so-and-so, such and such! May Allah guide you. I, if Allah wills, do not get used to this thing." She should address her in the best manner.
The point is: I advise each one to use kind words, good manners, and to be careful not to be a cause of separation and divorce. The mother should strive in the good means, kind words, and advice. The wife should also strive to please the mother, use kind words with her, and fulfill her needs. If the mother treats her badly, she should be patient and endure. All of this is good for everyone. Yes.

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