The Ruling on a Father Forcing His Daughter to Marry
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Question:
A letter was sent by one of the sisters, saying: Fayha: Our sister’s letter is a full page long, and its summary is that her father wants to marry her to a man she says is her father’s age, or older. She has refused that marriage and does not want it. She follows up by saying: Do not tell me to marry that man, O Shaykh, because that is impossible, impossible, and I will not marry him as long as I remain alive. So what do you advise my father, and those who follow his example? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
We advise your father, your uncles, and your brothers to fear Allah, and to seek for you a suitable young man from among the people of goodness and faith. As for compelling you to marry the older man or anyone else, that is not permissible, even if he were a young man. They have no right to compel you, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):Sahih al-Bukhari 6970 They said: O Messenger of Allah! How is her permission? He said: And in another hadith, he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: .
Therefore, it is obligatory for your father to fear Allah, to have mercy on you, and not to marry you off except with your permission, whether the husband is old or young. Your father, your brothers, and your uncles have no right to marry you off except to someone you are pleased with from among the people of goodness and uprightness. This is what is obligatory for them, and they have no right to force you to marry an old man or a young one. We ask Allah for guidance for us and for them.
The presenter: O Allah, amen. May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good, O Shaykh! Some people’s insight is clouded by material wealth and money. Is there a word to say?
The Shaykh: It is not permissible for them. It is obligatory for the believer to fear Allah, not to be deceived by material wealth, and not to let greed be his portion in order to harm his daughter or his sister. It is obligatory to fear Allah and to seek for his daughter, his sister, and the like a good man, a believing man, a righteous man, one with few problems, and not to let his concern be greed. He should seek a man of wealth so that he will give him money. This is not permissible. This is a trust, and he must fear Allah in this trust, and seek for her a righteous, good man, of good reputation and good religion, so that he may marry her with her consent and approval, even if the mahr is small. A small mahr for a righteous man is better than a large mahr for an unrighteous man. Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
A letter was sent by one of the sisters, saying: Fayha: Our sister’s letter is a full page long, and its summary is that her father wants to marry her to a man she says is her father’s age, or older. She has refused that marriage and does not want it. She follows up by saying: Do not tell me to marry that man, O Shaykh, because that is impossible, impossible, and I will not marry him as long as I remain alive. So what do you advise my father, and those who follow his example? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
We advise your father, your uncles, and your brothers to fear Allah, and to seek for you a suitable young man from among the people of goodness and faith. As for compelling you to marry the older man or anyone else, that is not permissible, even if he were a young man. They have no right to compel you, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):
A lady slave should not be given in marriage until she is consulted, and a virgin should not be given in marriage until her permission is granted.
لا تنكح الأيم حتى تستأمر، ولا تنكح البكر حتى تستأذنThat she remains silent.
أن تسكتAnd a virgin is to be consulted by her father, and her permission is her silence
والبكر يستأذنها أبوها، وإذنها سكوتهاTherefore, it is obligatory for your father to fear Allah, to have mercy on you, and not to marry you off except with your permission, whether the husband is old or young. Your father, your brothers, and your uncles have no right to marry you off except to someone you are pleased with from among the people of goodness and uprightness. This is what is obligatory for them, and they have no right to force you to marry an old man or a young one. We ask Allah for guidance for us and for them.
The presenter: O Allah, amen. May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good, O Shaykh! Some people’s insight is clouded by material wealth and money. Is there a word to say?
The Shaykh: It is not permissible for them. It is obligatory for the believer to fear Allah, not to be deceived by material wealth, and not to let greed be his portion in order to harm his daughter or his sister. It is obligatory to fear Allah and to seek for his daughter, his sister, and the like a good man, a believing man, a righteous man, one with few problems, and not to let his concern be greed. He should seek a man of wealth so that he will give him money. This is not permissible. This is a trust, and he must fear Allah in this trust, and seek for her a righteous, good man, of good reputation and good religion, so that he may marry her with her consent and approval, even if the mahr is small. A small mahr for a righteous man is better than a large mahr for an unrighteous man. Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
Source
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