The Ruling on a Woman Who Has Been Contracted in Marriage Seeking Permission from Her Husband

Question:
In her second question, Umm 'Umar from Jeddah, Saudi Arabia, says: Sometimes a girl stays in her father's house for a certain period after her marriage contract is concluded, and after she has become married, she is still in her father's house. From whom should she seek permission to go out? Is it the right of the father, or is it the right of the husband? And if the father gives her permission to go out, but the husband refuses, whom should she listen to and obey?

Answer:
Permission in this case belongs to the husband. Even if she is with her family, she does not go out except with his permission; because with the completion of the marriage, he has acquired the right of protection over her, so permission is necessary. If the father asks that she go out for something, she seeks permission from her husband, saying: "My father ordered such and such... perhaps you will allow such and such." She combines the two matters. However, the one who has the independent authority is the husband; because after the marriage, the matter has become his. The father should ensure that his intervention is done with kindness, in a way that does not harm everyone.
Therefore, the father should agree with the husband on what he wants so that there is no dispute or discord. But in general, obedience is due to the husband; because through the marriage, she has come under his protection, and he has authority over her going out and returning, and in other matters of their affairs. However, as much as she can, she should combine the two matters and appease the husband so that he allows her to obey her father, so that there is no discord. This is good. Yes.

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