Ruling on defying one's parents regarding the proposal of a girl who does not pray?
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Question:
Our brother has another question, the essence of which is: he knows that obeying one's parents is obligatory. So he says, for example: his father proposed one of the girls to him, but he learned that she does not pray. If he refuses this proposed bride, is this considered undutifulness to parents or not, O Shaykh 'Abd al-'Aziz?
Answer:
This is not undutifulness to parents, and it is not permissible to marry a woman who does not pray; because abandoning the prayer is major shirk (associating partners with Allah) according to the correct opinion, due to the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):Sunan Ibn Majah 1079Sahih (Darussalam), and because it is the pillar of Islam. A group of scholars held that it is minor shirk, and that it is a sin, and that it does not make one a disbeliever, and that a man does not become a disbeliever by it if he acknowledges its obligation and knows that it is obligatory. In any case, the one who does not pray is not to be married, even if we say that she is not a disbeliever. She should not be married, and the father should not be obeyed in this, nor the mother, nor anyone else. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Mishkat al-Masabih 3696.
Although the correct view is that the one who abandons the prayer is considered a disbeliever, even if he abandons it out of negligence. As for if he denies its obligation, then he is a disbeliever according to all scholars, may Allah grant us safety. Likewise, if he denies the obligation of zakah (the obligatory alms) or the obligation of fasting, or denies the obligation of Hajj (the major pilgrimage) while having the ability, he is a disbeliever according to the scholars.
So the believer should seek the righteous, good woman in marriage, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said in the authentic hadith:Bulugh al-Maram 8:5. So the man seeks the righteous woman, and likewise the woman seeks the righteous, good man. Do not marry the one who does not pray or drinks intoxicants or... avoid him, seek the good. So likewise, the man seeks the righteous woman known for her religion, uprightness, and maintenance of prayer, so that the relationship between them is established on good and guidance. And likewise, so that the offspring, if Allah wills, are also righteous. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
Our brother has another question, the essence of which is: he knows that obeying one's parents is obligatory. So he says, for example: his father proposed one of the girls to him, but he learned that she does not pray. If he refuses this proposed bride, is this considered undutifulness to parents or not, O Shaykh 'Abd al-'Aziz?
Answer:
This is not undutifulness to parents, and it is not permissible to marry a woman who does not pray; because abandoning the prayer is major shirk (associating partners with Allah) according to the correct opinion, due to the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):
The covenant that distinguishes between us and them is prayer; so whoever leaves it, he has committed Kufr.
العهد الذي بيننا وبينهم الصلاة فمن تركها فقد كفرA creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”
إنما الطاعة في المعروف، لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالقAlthough the correct view is that the one who abandons the prayer is considered a disbeliever, even if he abandons it out of negligence. As for if he denies its obligation, then he is a disbeliever according to all scholars, may Allah grant us safety. Likewise, if he denies the obligation of zakah (the obligatory alms) or the obligation of fasting, or denies the obligation of Hajj (the major pilgrimage) while having the ability, he is a disbeliever according to the scholars.
So the believer should seek the righteous, good woman in marriage, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said in the authentic hadith:
A woman is married for four qualities, for her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion: so get the religious one and prosper.
تنكح المرأة لأربع: لمالها ولجمالها ولحسبها ولدينها فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداكThe presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
Source
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