Does a husband obey his family in divorcing his wife?
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Question:
From Abu Dhabi, a message was sent by a listener from there, saying: Ahmad Shaykh Abu Jihad, the brother Ahmad has a prolonged case. The summary of what I understood from this case, Your Eminence the Shaykh, is that his family is asking him to divorce his wife, and he loves her, and he has sons and daughters from her. What do you advise him?
May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
If she is harming them and causing them damage, then advise her until she repents and turns away from her harm. If she returns and repents, then praise be to Allah. But if she is not harming them and not causing them damage, then you are not obligated to obey themSunan Abi Dawud 2625Sahih (Al-Albani) If she continues in the harm and does not return, then it is obligatory for you to divorce her to please your parents, if the one commanding is your parents.
But if the one commanding is other than the parents, you are not obligated to obey a brother or anyone else. However, if the one commanding you to divorce is your parents, their command is great, and dutifulness to them is required, if there is a valid reason for it, such as her harming them with her speech or actions.
The point is: if she is causing them harm, then divorce her unless she repents and leaves off the harm. But if she is continuing in the harm, then you listen and obey your parents if they do not allow anything other than her divorce. But if she is obedient and upright, and they only hate her, then you are not obligated to obey them; because this is not from what is right. Obedience is only in what is right. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
From Abu Dhabi, a message was sent by a listener from there, saying: Ahmad Shaykh Abu Jihad, the brother Ahmad has a prolonged case. The summary of what I understood from this case, Your Eminence the Shaykh, is that his family is asking him to divorce his wife, and he loves her, and he has sons and daughters from her. What do you advise him?
May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
If she is harming them and causing them damage, then advise her until she repents and turns away from her harm. If she returns and repents, then praise be to Allah. But if she is not harming them and not causing them damage, then you are not obligated to obey them
Obedience is in matters which are good and universally recognized.
إنما الطاعة في المعروفBut if the one commanding is other than the parents, you are not obligated to obey a brother or anyone else. However, if the one commanding you to divorce is your parents, their command is great, and dutifulness to them is required, if there is a valid reason for it, such as her harming them with her speech or actions.
The point is: if she is causing them harm, then divorce her unless she repents and leaves off the harm. But if she is continuing in the harm, then you listen and obey your parents if they do not allow anything other than her divorce. But if she is obedient and upright, and they only hate her, then you are not obligated to obey them; because this is not from what is right. Obedience is only in what is right. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
Source
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