What is the ruling on citing the command of 'Umar ibn al-Khattab to his son to divorce his wife as evidence for the command of some fathers to their sons to divorce their wives?

The questioner : It is reported from Ibn 'Umar that when he said to his son, "Divorce your wife," and the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) approved of it, is this, Shaykh, evidence that a son must obey his father if he tells him to divorce, knowing that the wife is righteous and the father is complaining about this wife? And conversely, Shaykh, if the wife's parents ask her to divorce her husband, should she obey them?

The Shaykh : If the one giving the command is 'Umar, then here he should obey him. Is the answer clear?

The questioner : It is clear, Shaykh, but they cite the approval of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)?

The Shaykh: Yes.

The questioner : The approval of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and they say: delaying the explanation until the time of need is not permissible?

The Shaykh : Consider what I said in the answer. Who did the one who approved approve of? The one who approved is the Messenger, and who was approved?

The questioner: 'Umar.

The Shaykh : 'Umar. So I have given you the answer. Or, is there a hadith in the Musnad of Imam Ahmad that confirms the problem and opens the door for us to answer with such an answer: "A man came to Abu al-Darda' and said: My mother orders me to divorce my wife. He said: I am not the one who orders you to divorce her, nor to disobey your mother." He heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say: , "So if you wish, keep her, and if you wish, divorce her." He did not say this to him because the issue is problematic, especially in our time today. In our time today: fathers are there with no mind, no thought, and perhaps no religion. And yet, because she is a worshipper and devoted to worship, he does not like this religiosity, and perhaps he calls it extremism. And so he wants his son to divorce his wife. No, the definitive answer: If it is like 'Umar, from whom the Shaytan flees, then he must be obeyed.