The ruling on obeying one's parents and on the presence of evil in their company
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Question:
Our sister asks and says: Is it permissible for me to heed the call of my father or mother if a video or something similar to a video is open and contains a film, or if they order me to sit with them? And do they have the right to prevent me from reading beneficial books that increase my insight into the religion?
Answer:
The parents, nor anyone else, have the right to prevent a daughter or a son from reading beneficial books, and they also do not have the right to compel a son or daughter to attend obscene films that contain no good. None of this is permissible for them, and the child is not to obey them in disobedience to Allah. He may differ with them, but with good manners and kind words; for the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sunan Abi Dawud 2625Sahih (Al-Albani) Mishkat al-Masabih 3696 .
There is no doubt that the prevention by parents of a child, whether male or female, there is no doubt that their preventing him from reading beneficial books is not permissible and is an evil. Every person, male and female, is in need of beneficial books.
Likewise, if they invite their child, whether male or female, to watch obscene films and other reprehensible things on television, in a movie, or elsewhere, there is no doubt that the father’s invitation to them, whether for the daughter or the son, is a reprehensible invitation. They are not required to obey him in that; rather, it is not permissible for them to obey him in that, if it is something that Allah has forbidden; because Allah has forbidden attending to what is wrong, and commanded staying away from it. He also commanded avoiding what Allah has forbidden, and not cooperating in sin and transgression. He forbade obeying the created in disobedience to the Creator. Therefore, the child, whether male or female, must not respond to the invitation of his or her father or mother in what Allah has forbidden. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good. So there is a specific limit to obeying the parents?
The Shaykh: Yes, in what is right, this is the limit.
The presenter: Obedience in what is right.
The Shaykh: What is right is what is prescribed and what is permissible, but disobedience is not. However, it is upon them, meaning it is upon the child, whether male or female, it is upon him to be careful with good manners and kind words, and to supplicate for his parents with success and guidance: "O my father, may Allah have mercy on you," "O my father, may Allah be pleased with you," "O my mother, may Allah have mercy on you," "O my mother! May Allah forgive you." This is something that is not permissible, this is something I am unable to respond to, meaning: with kind expressions, with tactful and gentle expressions that contain no harshness; for Allah said regarding the parents: [Luqman:15] Even if they were disbelievers, how much more so for Muslims.
And Allah the Exalted said: [Luqman:14] And He said: [al-Baqarah:83]. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good, and may He benefit us with your knowledge.
Our sister asks and says: Is it permissible for me to heed the call of my father or mother if a video or something similar to a video is open and contains a film, or if they order me to sit with them? And do they have the right to prevent me from reading beneficial books that increase my insight into the religion?
Answer:
The parents, nor anyone else, have the right to prevent a daughter or a son from reading beneficial books, and they also do not have the right to compel a son or daughter to attend obscene films that contain no good. None of this is permissible for them, and the child is not to obey them in disobedience to Allah. He may differ with them, but with good manners and kind words; for the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Obedience is in matters which are good and universally recognized.
إنما الطاعة في المعروفA creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”
لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالقThere is no doubt that the prevention by parents of a child, whether male or female, there is no doubt that their preventing him from reading beneficial books is not permissible and is an evil. Every person, male and female, is in need of beneficial books.
Likewise, if they invite their child, whether male or female, to watch obscene films and other reprehensible things on television, in a movie, or elsewhere, there is no doubt that the father’s invitation to them, whether for the daughter or the son, is a reprehensible invitation. They are not required to obey him in that; rather, it is not permissible for them to obey him in that, if it is something that Allah has forbidden; because Allah has forbidden attending to what is wrong, and commanded staying away from it. He also commanded avoiding what Allah has forbidden, and not cooperating in sin and transgression. He forbade obeying the created in disobedience to the Creator. Therefore, the child, whether male or female, must not respond to the invitation of his or her father or mother in what Allah has forbidden. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good. So there is a specific limit to obeying the parents?
The Shaykh: Yes, in what is right, this is the limit.
The presenter: Obedience in what is right.
The Shaykh: What is right is what is prescribed and what is permissible, but disobedience is not. However, it is upon them, meaning it is upon the child, whether male or female, it is upon him to be careful with good manners and kind words, and to supplicate for his parents with success and guidance: "O my father, may Allah have mercy on you," "O my father, may Allah be pleased with you," "O my mother, may Allah have mercy on you," "O my mother! May Allah forgive you." This is something that is not permissible, this is something I am unable to respond to, meaning: with kind expressions, with tactful and gentle expressions that contain no harshness; for Allah said regarding the parents:
but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness
وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًاAnd Allah the Exalted said:
Be grateful to Me and to your parents
أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَAnd to parents, kindness
وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًاThe presenter: May Allah reward you with good, and may He benefit us with your knowledge.
Source
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