The ruling on a husband who does not have intercourse with his wife except very rarely
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Question:
What is the ruling in the religion regarding a husband who does not have intercourse with his wife except very rarely, and even when he does, he does so with reluctance, knowing that the wife will suffer harm from this? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
As long as he has intercourse with her, praise be to Allah, even if he does so with reluctance. However, if he refuses to have intercourse with her and refuses to do so, this is referred to the court if they do not agree on reconciliation in separating from her, or if he gives her something that satisfies her regarding it, or if they agree on separation by her giving him her mahr or part of it and he separates from her. These matters between a woman and her husband are either that they reconcile, or that they refer the matter to the judge.
And if he is excused and does not have the ability, the judge looks into the matter. But if he is able, it is obligatory for him to have intercourse with her and to chaste her, and he has no right to harm her. If he intends to harm her, he is compelled to do so. And Allah, Exalted and Majestic is He, commanded to give the one who takes an oath to abstain from his wife a respite of four months; the one who swears not to have intercourse with his wife, Allah gives him a respite of four months. He, the Exalted, said:[Al-Baqarah 2:226] And if they are determined to divorce, then indeed Allah is Hearing and Knowing [al-Baqarah: 226-227]. So he is given a respite of four months; if he fulfills it and has intercourse, otherwise he is compelled to divorce.
So this woman whose husband does not have intercourse with her except very rarely is given the choice between patience and waiting; perhaps Allah will cure him, perhaps it will be removed from him if he has an illness. And it is also obligatory for him to take care of the matter if he is able to do something in terms of medicine and treatment; perhaps the intended result of chasting his wife will be achieved. If that does not become easy, this is referred to the court; because the detail in this matter and looking into this matter removes the harm if the woman does not have patience, and if the husband does not provide what satisfies her, such as money he gives her, or something else that satisfies her.
What is the ruling in the religion regarding a husband who does not have intercourse with his wife except very rarely, and even when he does, he does so with reluctance, knowing that the wife will suffer harm from this? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
As long as he has intercourse with her, praise be to Allah, even if he does so with reluctance. However, if he refuses to have intercourse with her and refuses to do so, this is referred to the court if they do not agree on reconciliation in separating from her, or if he gives her something that satisfies her regarding it, or if they agree on separation by her giving him her mahr or part of it and he separates from her. These matters between a woman and her husband are either that they reconcile, or that they refer the matter to the judge.
And if he is excused and does not have the ability, the judge looks into the matter. But if he is able, it is obligatory for him to have intercourse with her and to chaste her, and he has no right to harm her. If he intends to harm her, he is compelled to do so. And Allah, Exalted and Majestic is He, commanded to give the one who takes an oath to abstain from his wife a respite of four months; the one who swears not to have intercourse with his wife, Allah gives him a respite of four months. He, the Exalted, said:
For those who swear not to have sexual relations with their wives is a waiting time of four months, but if they return [to normal relations] - then indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.
لِلَّذِينَ يُؤْلُونَ مِنْ نِسَائِهِمْ تَرَبُّصُ أَرْبَعَةِ أَشْهُرٍ فَإِنْ فَاءُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَحِيمٌ So this woman whose husband does not have intercourse with her except very rarely is given the choice between patience and waiting; perhaps Allah will cure him, perhaps it will be removed from him if he has an illness. And it is also obligatory for him to take care of the matter if he is able to do something in terms of medicine and treatment; perhaps the intended result of chasting his wife will be achieved. If that does not become easy, this is referred to the court; because the detail in this matter and looking into this matter removes the harm if the woman does not have patience, and if the husband does not provide what satisfies her, such as money he gives her, or something else that satisfies her.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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