What is lowering the gaze that prevents a man from marrying a second wife?
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The questioner : What I want to ask is, what is the lowering of the gaze that prevents one from marrying a second woman? What is lowering the gaze?
The student : He got into a predicament and got tangled up.
The Shaykh : So, your question is, what is lowering the gaze?
The questioner : ... It is tied to a matter, that I do not want to lower my gaze until I marry a second woman. What is lowering the gaze?
The student : ...
The questioner : I did not tangle you up, I told you.
The Shaykh : I see you are silent, content with your words.
The student : No, because if he tangles up three or four, it is easier than tangling upThe Shaykh : Nasser.
Another student: It is because of this.
The Shaykh : The tying, I did not understand it. Either untie it or tie it!
The student : What? Did you stop?
Another student : ...
The questioner : But lowering the gaze?
The Shaykh : So, your question now is about lowering the gaze without tying it to polygamy?
The questioner : And the second branch is tied to it.
The Shaykh : You can tie it or untie it as you wish later. We are now answering your question without tying it to the second issue. I will answer you without philosophy, not with reason but with transmission. If the transmission suffices you from reason, that is what we want. If the transmission does not suffice you from reason, that is another problem we fall into.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Wait a moment.
The Shaykh: There are two hadiths. The first hadith is in "Sahih Muslim" from Jarir.Sahih al-Bukhari 2436, this is the first hadith. The second hadith: The hadith of Ali in al-Tirmidhi and others: . Are these two hadiths sufficient as an answer to your question not tied to the other issue, or are they not sufficient?
The student : Look, do not fall into the second problem.
Another student: The speech is clear, lowering the gaze is clear.
Another student: ... The first one, how long is it? The first one is for you and the second one is upon you.
The Shaykh : Is this sufficient as an answer to your question?
The student : ...
The Shaykh : Now tie it or untie it as you wish.
The student : ...
The Shaykh : Oh, what, what? We tried to convert it for you, but you did not accept it.
The student : But a correction...
The Shaykh : Be patient. If one, what?
The questioner : If one is not able to lower his gaze?
The Shaykh : Not able?
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Is this speech correct?
The questioner : Not able means he wants to keep looking, O Shaykh.
Another student: They keep looking.
Another student: He is not able to lower his gaze.
The Shaykh : So, not able to lower the gaze, is this speech correct, meaning?
The student : ...
The Shaykh : So, now you are transferring us with your words to another issue. That is, our Lord - Mighty and Majestic - in the verse you pointed to, or some of the attendees[An-Nur 24:30]; I do not think you believe that Allah - Mighty and Majestic - commanded something that people cannot obey. I do not think you say this, is that not so? I am not tangling you up, I am holding you to the path. Is that not so?
The student : ...
The Shaykh : To the end, if Allah wills. So, when our Lord said:[An-Nur 24:30] with something possible, then when the question is: So-and-so among people is not able to lower his gaze.
The student : Then he is an open sinner.
The Shaykh : Excuse me, is this question correct?
The student : ... .
The Shaykh : So, correct your question then.
The questioner : ... .
The Shaykh : So?
The student : It is a command from Allah.
The Shaykh : So?
The student : ...
The Shaykh : Tie it, my brother, as you wish, tie it, but remove the stumbling blocks from the topic. Because you wanted to tie the topic to the second topic on the assumption that he is not able to lower his gaze, so this problem came to us: that Allah commands something we are not able to... do, he is able to do it.
The student : If he had paid attention to the speech I said here, he would not have fallen into the problem. And if you want me to speak a little, if you permitThe Shaykh .
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The student : We said the saying of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him):Mishkat al-Masabih 3080, with what did the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) justify it? He said: Sunan an-Nasa'i 2242Sahih (Darussalam), so you have a single man who is able to marry, so if he marries, that is the lowering of his gaze, correct or not correct? Correct. A second man is married and it appears in his mind that the glance and the glance may come to him, and he is able to marry a second woman, is he not the one who lowers his gaze more?
Another student: I am asking you, is he not able by this means to be more capable of lowering his gaze?
Another student: I do not know. I do not know.
Another student: How do you not know.
Another student: No, no, there is an easier question for him, our Shaykh.
Another student: I do not know.
Another student: How do you not know?
Another student: Why did the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say to the single man, why did he rule that the single man lowers his gaze or is more capable of lowering his gaze?
Another student: By the way.
Another student: Yes?
Another student: Changing the word "single" is "azab" and not "a'zab".
Another student: Yes, "azab".
Another student: On the pattern of "faras" (horse), and its plural is "a'zab".
Another student: The "azab" (single man), the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) clarifies that by marriage he is more capable of lowering his gaze, meaning in the sense that he can lower his gaze, but he is more capable of lowering it by marriage to the first wife.
Another student: Excuse me, it is coming to you, but do you not know that women - also - are of different shapes and colors, so by marriage to the second he is more capable of lowering the gaze, and by marriage to the third he is more capable of lowering the gaze, and by marriage to the fourth he is more capable of lowering the gaze.
Another student: Excuse me, and adding to what I am telling you, in the right of possession (slavery) he is more capable of lowering the gaze, so it continues within what Allah has permitted, as long as Allah has permitted it to him and he is able to do it, he takes the lawful means that enable him to lower his gaze to the extent that means Allah has permitted it to him.
The student : He got into a predicament and got tangled up.
The Shaykh : So, your question is, what is lowering the gaze?
The questioner : ... It is tied to a matter, that I do not want to lower my gaze until I marry a second woman. What is lowering the gaze?
The student : ...
The questioner : I did not tangle you up, I told you.
The Shaykh : I see you are silent, content with your words.
The student : No, because if he tangles up three or four, it is easier than tangling upThe Shaykh : Nasser.
Another student: It is because of this.
The Shaykh : The tying, I did not understand it. Either untie it or tie it!
The student : What? Did you stop?
Another student : ...
The questioner : But lowering the gaze?
The Shaykh : So, your question now is about lowering the gaze without tying it to polygamy?
The questioner : And the second branch is tied to it.
The Shaykh : You can tie it or untie it as you wish later. We are now answering your question without tying it to the second issue. I will answer you without philosophy, not with reason but with transmission. If the transmission suffices you from reason, that is what we want. If the transmission does not suffice you from reason, that is another problem we fall into.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Wait a moment.
The Shaykh: There are two hadiths. The first hadith is in "Sahih Muslim" from Jarir.
Narrated Zaid bin Khalid Al-Juhani: A man asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) about the Luqata. He said, "Make public announcement of it for one year, then remember the description of its container and the string it is tied with, utilize the money, and if its owner comes back after that, give it to him." The people asked, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! What about a lost sheep?" Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Take it, for it is for you, for your brother, or for the wolf." The man asked, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! What about a lost camel?" Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) got angry and his cheeks or face became red, and said, "You have no concern with it as it has its feet, and its watercontainer, till its owner finds it."
أن رجلًا سأل رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - عن نظرة الفجأة ، قال : اصرِفْ بصركO Ali, the first glance is for you and the second glance is upon you
يا عليُّ ، النظرة الأولى لك والثانية عليكThe student : Look, do not fall into the second problem.
Another student: The speech is clear, lowering the gaze is clear.
Another student: ... The first one, how long is it? The first one is for you and the second one is upon you.
The Shaykh : Is this sufficient as an answer to your question?
The student : ...
The Shaykh : Now tie it or untie it as you wish.
The student : ...
The Shaykh : Oh, what, what? We tried to convert it for you, but you did not accept it.
The student : But a correction...
The Shaykh : Be patient. If one, what?
The questioner : If one is not able to lower his gaze?
The Shaykh : Not able?
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Is this speech correct?
The questioner : Not able means he wants to keep looking, O Shaykh.
Another student: They keep looking.
Another student: He is not able to lower his gaze.
The Shaykh : So, not able to lower the gaze, is this speech correct, meaning?
The student : ...
The Shaykh : So, now you are transferring us with your words to another issue. That is, our Lord - Mighty and Majestic - in the verse you pointed to, or some of the attendees
Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts
قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْThe student : ...
The Shaykh : To the end, if Allah wills. So, when our Lord said:
to reduce [some] of their vision
يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْThe student : Then he is an open sinner.
The Shaykh : Excuse me, is this question correct?
The student : ... .
The Shaykh : So, correct your question then.
The questioner : ... .
The Shaykh : So?
The student : It is a command from Allah.
The Shaykh : So?
The student : ...
The Shaykh : Tie it, my brother, as you wish, tie it, but remove the stumbling blocks from the topic. Because you wanted to tie the topic to the second topic on the assumption that he is not able to lower his gaze, so this problem came to us: that Allah commands something we are not able to... do, he is able to do it.
The student : If he had paid attention to the speech I said here, he would not have fallen into the problem. And if you want me to speak a little, if you permitThe Shaykh .
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The student : We said the saying of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him):
Young man, those of you who can support a wife should marry
يا معشر الشباب ، مَن استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوَّجْfor it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one's chastity
فإنه أغضُّ للبصر ، وأحصَنُ للفرجAnother student: I am asking you, is he not able by this means to be more capable of lowering his gaze?
Another student: I do not know. I do not know.
Another student: How do you not know.
Another student: No, no, there is an easier question for him, our Shaykh.
Another student: I do not know.
Another student: How do you not know?
Another student: Why did the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say to the single man, why did he rule that the single man lowers his gaze or is more capable of lowering his gaze?
Another student: By the way.
Another student: Yes?
Another student: Changing the word "single" is "azab" and not "a'zab".
Another student: Yes, "azab".
Another student: On the pattern of "faras" (horse), and its plural is "a'zab".
Another student: The "azab" (single man), the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) clarifies that by marriage he is more capable of lowering his gaze, meaning in the sense that he can lower his gaze, but he is more capable of lowering it by marriage to the first wife.
Another student: Excuse me, it is coming to you, but do you not know that women - also - are of different shapes and colors, so by marriage to the second he is more capable of lowering the gaze, and by marriage to the third he is more capable of lowering the gaze, and by marriage to the fourth he is more capable of lowering the gaze.
Another student: Excuse me, and adding to what I am telling you, in the right of possession (slavery) he is more capable of lowering the gaze, so it continues within what Allah has permitted, as long as Allah has permitted it to him and he is able to do it, he takes the lawful means that enable him to lower his gaze to the extent that means Allah has permitted it to him.
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