Continuation of the explanation of the athar of Qays ibn 'Asim: (So when I die, do not wail over me, for no one wailed over the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him).

The Shaykh: This is also part of the man's will: "So when I die, do not wail over me, for no one wailed over the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), and when I die, bury me in a land where Bakr ibn Wail will not know of my burial, for I used to ambush them in the pre-Islamic age of ignorance": Here, the word "used to" is a point where one should pause and reflect, but time is short, so we say: The man's will in his statement, "So when I die, do not wail over me," means that when certainty and death come to me, do not cry over me with loud screaming. Crying with loud screaming is wailing, and this is forbidden in Islam, especially if the wailing is from women. As for crying with tears out of sadness, this is permissible, and it is a natural and innate matter. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) wept over some of his children, including Ibrahim and his daughter Zaynab (peace be upon him). But this crying was crying of mercy and sadness for the separation, and it was not wailing and screaming like the screaming of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance. This is the last will that this man left for his children, and every will among them can serve as a will for every individual among the Muslims.
As for his last will, it is a specific will that does not extend to others, and it is his statement: "And when I die, bury me in a land where Bakr ibn Wail will not know of my burial, for I used to ambush them in the pre-Islamic age of ignorance": In the pre-Islamic age of ignorance, as we all know, they were tribes, as some poets said: "They kill one another unjustly" and "And they do not fear blame or sin." Then this man embraced Islam, and naturally his Islam was good, but he feared that the tribal arrogance of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance would flare up in some of those he had ambushed in the pre-Islamic age of ignorance and killed from among them. Islam abolishes what came before it, so he feared that if he were buried in a place, Bakr ibn Wail—meaning some of its members—would become aware and come to dig up his grave. So he willed that they bury him in a land that the Banu Bakr ibn Wail do not know, because he has a blood feud with them from the pre-Islamic age of ignorance. Their blood feud with him might be that they dig up his grave, and this is not permissible in Islam. This is the last will that Qays ibn 'Asim left for his children—may Allah have mercy on him—and we have taken these wills of his as examples and acted upon them.
And this is sufficient, and praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.