Is a woman’s share of marriage written for her before she is created?
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The Shaykh : Please, go ahead.
The questioner : Today we were discussing that marriage is a portion and a destiny, so is it written for a single woman that she will have her share before she is created?
The Shaykh : Everything is written before the creation of all beings, everything, whether a person does it by his own choice or is forced to do it by others, all of it is recorded in the Preserved Tablet, and that is a necessity.
The questioner : Okay, if, for example, a suitor comes to a single woman and there are many objections, despite all the objections, if it is her destiny, will he take her?
The Shaykh : This answer has already been given, O daughter of the faithful, but whether he takes her or she takes him, or whether she does not take him, this depends on the choice of both the man and the woman; therefore he (peace be upon him) said:Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1084Da'if (Darussalam).
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Many people have a Muslim suitor come to them, but he is poor, and they are not pleased to marry their daughter to him. No one forced them to be displeased, while the guardian of another daughter has a suitor who is a sinner and a transgressor, but he is rich, and they are pleased with him. All of this is decreed, but there is a matter in which a person has a choice. I mean, did you ask me against your will?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Did you ask me against your will or by your choice?
The questioner : No, by my choice.
The Shaykh : Yes, and am I answering you against my will or by my choice?
The questioner : By your choice, willingly.
The Shaykh : That is it, but there are matters that are not within a person’s will. One person proposing to another and the woman’s agreement to that proposal or not, all of this is within the circle of human choice, but everything is by decree, whether a person has a choice in the matter or is compelled. And peace be upon you, welcome, welcome, and peace be upon you. Let us give an example. Hello.
The questioner : Today we were discussing that marriage is a portion and a destiny, so is it written for a single woman that she will have her share before she is created?
The Shaykh : Everything is written before the creation of all beings, everything, whether a person does it by his own choice or is forced to do it by others, all of it is recorded in the Preserved Tablet, and that is a necessity.
The questioner : Okay, if, for example, a suitor comes to a single woman and there are many objections, despite all the objections, if it is her destiny, will he take her?
The Shaykh : This answer has already been given, O daughter of the faithful, but whether he takes her or she takes him, or whether she does not take him, this depends on the choice of both the man and the woman; therefore he (peace be upon him) said:
When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes to (someone under the care) of one of you, then marry to him. If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and abounding discord (Fasad).
إذا جاءكم مَن ترضَون دينه وخلقه فزوِّجوه ، إلا تفعلوا تَكُنْ في الأرض فتنة وفساد عريضThe questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Many people have a Muslim suitor come to them, but he is poor, and they are not pleased to marry their daughter to him. No one forced them to be displeased, while the guardian of another daughter has a suitor who is a sinner and a transgressor, but he is rich, and they are pleased with him. All of this is decreed, but there is a matter in which a person has a choice. I mean, did you ask me against your will?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Did you ask me against your will or by your choice?
The questioner : No, by my choice.
The Shaykh : Yes, and am I answering you against my will or by my choice?
The questioner : By your choice, willingly.
The Shaykh : That is it, but there are matters that are not within a person’s will. One person proposing to another and the woman’s agreement to that proposal or not, all of this is within the circle of human choice, but everything is by decree, whether a person has a choice in the matter or is compelled. And peace be upon you, welcome, welcome, and peace be upon you. Let us give an example. Hello.
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