The Choice
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The fourth: The choice, meaning that a person commits these things that break the fast of his own volition. The opposite of this is coercion. If a man coerces his wife into intercourse and she has intercourse with him while she is fasting and is unable to escape from him, then her fast is valid and she owes nothing, neither in Ramadan nor outside of Ramadan. However, is it permissible for the husband to break her fast or force her?There is a detail in it: If it is in Ramadan, it is not permissible. But how can it be permissible for the husband to have intercourse with her when it is not permissible for her to be had intercourse with?The form of that: If a man is traveling and is not fasting during his journey, and then he arrives in his home town while still in a state of not fasting, he is allowed to eat and drink until the sun sets; because he is not required to abstain according to the stronger position. In that case, it is permissible for the husband to break his fast, and from that, intercourse is permissible for him. But the wife is fasting, and it is not permissible for him to break her fast.
Likewise, if she is making up fasts from Ramadan, and she has started making them up with his permission, then it is not permissible for him to break her fast with intercourse; because he has given her permission.
Likewise, if she fasts a voluntary fast with his permission, then it is not permissible for him to break her fast; because he has given her permission.
But in this case, where she is fasting a voluntary fast with his permission, if he asks her to come to the bed, is it better for her to continue fasting and refuse, or to answer her husband?The second is better: She should answer her husband; because answering her husband is from the category of obligatory matters in principle, and fasting is voluntary from the category of recommended matters. And because if she refuses while he has a strong desire, there may be something in his heart against her, and the relationship may become bad because of that.
Likewise, if there remains from making up Ramadan in Sha'ban a number of days equal to the days she owes, and she starts fasting, even without his permission, then it is not permissible for him to break her fast; because her making up the fasts before the second Ramadan enters is an obligatory matter.
This is what relates to fasting and the things that break the fast.
As for many etiquettes in fasting, and striving for obedience, and the remembrance of Allah, and reading the Qur'an, and other things, this is a matter for which the occasion does not allow us to mention it.
Likewise, if she is making up fasts from Ramadan, and she has started making them up with his permission, then it is not permissible for him to break her fast with intercourse; because he has given her permission.
Likewise, if she fasts a voluntary fast with his permission, then it is not permissible for him to break her fast; because he has given her permission.
But in this case, where she is fasting a voluntary fast with his permission, if he asks her to come to the bed, is it better for her to continue fasting and refuse, or to answer her husband?The second is better: She should answer her husband; because answering her husband is from the category of obligatory matters in principle, and fasting is voluntary from the category of recommended matters. And because if she refuses while he has a strong desire, there may be something in his heart against her, and the relationship may become bad because of that.
Likewise, if there remains from making up Ramadan in Sha'ban a number of days equal to the days she owes, and she starts fasting, even without his permission, then it is not permissible for him to break her fast; because her making up the fasts before the second Ramadan enters is an obligatory matter.
This is what relates to fasting and the things that break the fast.
As for many etiquettes in fasting, and striving for obedience, and the remembrance of Allah, and reading the Qur'an, and other things, this is a matter for which the occasion does not allow us to mention it.