I live with my husband in a separate house, but my husband wants to move me to his family's house where his brother lives, on the condition that I have one room there.
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The questioner : Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh: And upon you peace.
The questioner : O Shaykh, you know, I can tell you what the matter is that upset me and my husband, meaning the housing situation.
The Shaykh: The housing situation.
The questioner : The housing, yes. I don't know if I should be upset with my husband or not, but my husband had decided that we would go back to live in his family's house, and my brother-in-law and I would share a room there, but the kitchen and bathroom would be shared. So, of course, I refused.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Of course, I don't know about this matter, but I know from the perspective of the Shari'ah that I have the right to refuse, based on the fact that my brother-in-law and I, how can we be present when my sister-in-law is there, and you know, she might be wearing hijab and such, and she wouldn't have her freedom, and things like that.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: So, my husband is not in a position where he is unable; he is capable, praise be to Allah, we are self-sufficient, but the matter is that people talk a lot. We are a community, as you say, farmers, and the son goes out.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : There is a lot of talk, so he wants to cut the talk short and let us go back to living in the situation I described to you, but I refused.
The Shaykh: Okay, so where are you living now?
The questioner : I am living in a house, meaning rented, for myself, yes. He wants to cut the people's talk short, so he wants to bring me back to live in the same room...
The Shaykh: So you are living in a house for yourself, rented.
The questioner : Ah.
The Shaykh: And your husband is with you.
The questioner : Yes, my husband is with me.
The Shaykh: But he wants to move you to a house with his brother.
The questioner : With his brother, each person has a room, and the kitchen and bathroom are shared.
The Shaykh: Okay, give it to him.
The questioner: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The questioner: You have bothered us, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh: Excuse me, did you hear what your wife said?
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh: So I am telling you, she is right. You must not bother her or wrong her by making her live with your brother. Rather, you should house her in a house, as it is called, a lawful house, where she has her freedom. And if she takes her freedom according to the customs of people today, you will bear the burden of that, and if she agrees, she will also bear the burden with you, because it is not possible today for a sister-in-law to live with her brother-in-law in a state of seclusion. Whenever the brother-in-law is in the house, this is very difficult and there is embarrassment for your wife. Therefore, I add my voice to hers, because the Shari'ah right is with her.
The questioner: Excuse me, O Shaykh, there is a matter: my father has a chronic illness.
The Shaykh: He has a chronic illness. You are done with him, and you visit him, and you see to him and serve him.
The questioner: It is my father's wish; he has a chronic illness, and I do not want, I do not want to bother him.
The Shaykh: I have answered you. It will not do for you to cause a reason for your wife's illness because of your father's illness. He, the Exalted, said:[An-Najm 53:36-38] So what is she doing? She must house her in a lawful house as she is living now, and you, too, live with her. You must visit your father in the morning, at midday, and in the evening, according to your ability and capacity, and serve him with your own eyes. This is your duty. As for wronging your wife because of your father, this is not permissible. And this is my advice to you. Now, I say that the tension between you and her will be caused by injustice and aggression. So I advise you to be among the ignorant, and peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah.
The questioner: May Allah keep you safe, and peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah.
The Shaykh: And upon you peace.
The questioner : O Shaykh, you know, I can tell you what the matter is that upset me and my husband, meaning the housing situation.
The Shaykh: The housing situation.
The questioner : The housing, yes. I don't know if I should be upset with my husband or not, but my husband had decided that we would go back to live in his family's house, and my brother-in-law and I would share a room there, but the kitchen and bathroom would be shared. So, of course, I refused.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Of course, I don't know about this matter, but I know from the perspective of the Shari'ah that I have the right to refuse, based on the fact that my brother-in-law and I, how can we be present when my sister-in-law is there, and you know, she might be wearing hijab and such, and she wouldn't have her freedom, and things like that.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: So, my husband is not in a position where he is unable; he is capable, praise be to Allah, we are self-sufficient, but the matter is that people talk a lot. We are a community, as you say, farmers, and the son goes out.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : There is a lot of talk, so he wants to cut the talk short and let us go back to living in the situation I described to you, but I refused.
The Shaykh: Okay, so where are you living now?
The questioner : I am living in a house, meaning rented, for myself, yes. He wants to cut the people's talk short, so he wants to bring me back to live in the same room...
The Shaykh: So you are living in a house for yourself, rented.
The questioner : Ah.
The Shaykh: And your husband is with you.
The questioner : Yes, my husband is with me.
The Shaykh: But he wants to move you to a house with his brother.
The questioner : With his brother, each person has a room, and the kitchen and bathroom are shared.
The Shaykh: Okay, give it to him.
The questioner: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The questioner: You have bothered us, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh: Excuse me, did you hear what your wife said?
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh: So I am telling you, she is right. You must not bother her or wrong her by making her live with your brother. Rather, you should house her in a house, as it is called, a lawful house, where she has her freedom. And if she takes her freedom according to the customs of people today, you will bear the burden of that, and if she agrees, she will also bear the burden with you, because it is not possible today for a sister-in-law to live with her brother-in-law in a state of seclusion. Whenever the brother-in-law is in the house, this is very difficult and there is embarrassment for your wife. Therefore, I add my voice to hers, because the Shari'ah right is with her.
The questioner: Excuse me, O Shaykh, there is a matter: my father has a chronic illness.
The Shaykh: He has a chronic illness. You are done with him, and you visit him, and you see to him and serve him.
The questioner: It is my father's wish; he has a chronic illness, and I do not want, I do not want to bother him.
The Shaykh: I have answered you. It will not do for you to cause a reason for your wife's illness because of your father's illness. He, the Exalted, said:
(36) Or has he not been informed of what was in the scriptures of Moses (37) And [of] Abraham, who fulfilled [his obligations] - (38) That no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another
أَمْ لَمْ يُنَبَّأْ بِمَا فِي صُحُفِ مُوسَى * وَإِبْرَاهِيمَ الَّذِي وَفَّى * أَلَّا تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَىThe questioner: May Allah keep you safe, and peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah.
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