If a young man of good character and religion proposes to a girl, is she permitted to reject him in search of a young man who is better than him in religion and intellect?
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The questioner : A questioner says: “May the Shaykh be respected, if a young man proposes to me for marriage, and this young man is one who maintains the prayer and is acceptable in his religion, but I am looking for a young man who is better than this young man in religion and intellect, is it permissible for me to reject him?”
The Shaykh :“The one who is patient may attain some of his need, *** and the one who is hasty may fall into error.
And perhaps a people’s greatest affair is lost *** through patience, and the opinion would have been better had they hastened”. It is not befitting for a person to waste an opportunity when he finds it. If a person of good character and religion proposes, one should not let the opportunity pass in the hope of finding someone better and more righteous, because that may not happen, especially with the advancement of age and the woman’s growing older. It is not befitting for her, ever, to neglect the one who has proposed to her. It was reported from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) that he said:Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1085Da'if (Darussalam) If the suitor is satisfactory in religion and character, let her marry him, and not wait for a matter of which she does not know whether it will happen or not. Yes.
The Shaykh :“The one who is patient may attain some of his need, *** and the one who is hasty may fall into error.
And perhaps a people’s greatest affair is lost *** through patience, and the opinion would have been better had they hastened”. It is not befitting for a person to waste an opportunity when he finds it. If a person of good character and religion proposes, one should not let the opportunity pass in the hope of finding someone better and more righteous, because that may not happen, especially with the advancement of age and the woman’s growing older. It is not befitting for her, ever, to neglect the one who has proposed to her. It was reported from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) that he said:
