A young man works and gives part of his earnings to his father, where his father constantly insults and abuses him and accuses him of negligence by hiding part of his salary and giving it to his wife
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The questioner : The questioner says: A young man works and gives his earnings to his father, where his father constantly insults and abuses him and accuses him of negligence by hiding part of his salary and giving it to his wife. So, is the salary to be given to the father in full? Please guide us regarding this?
The Shaykh : The salary belongs to the one who is entitled to it. In this example, the salary belongs to the son. No one has authority over him except his father. The father is allowed to take whatever he wants from his son's money, provided it does not harm him. However, I advise the father and say: if you do not have a need, let your son and his money be, so that he can expand his means for himself and his family, for that is maintaining family ties. As for you tightening things up on him and saying, "You must give me your salary," and then you dispose of it as you wish, this necessitates severing family ties and causes the son to hate you and not to be dutiful to you. Here, we address the son and we address the father. As for the son, we inform him that he and his money belong to his father, and that his father is allowed to take whatever he wants from his money, provided it does not harm him.
As for the father, we advise him not to touch his son's money unless he is in need. If he is in need, it is obligatory for the son to remove his father's need, whether the father takes it himself or the son gives it to him. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : The salary belongs to the one who is entitled to it. In this example, the salary belongs to the son. No one has authority over him except his father. The father is allowed to take whatever he wants from his son's money, provided it does not harm him. However, I advise the father and say: if you do not have a need, let your son and his money be, so that he can expand his means for himself and his family, for that is maintaining family ties. As for you tightening things up on him and saying, "You must give me your salary," and then you dispose of it as you wish, this necessitates severing family ties and causes the son to hate you and not to be dutiful to you. Here, we address the son and we address the father. As for the son, we inform him that he and his money belong to his father, and that his father is allowed to take whatever he wants from his money, provided it does not harm him.
As for the father, we advise him not to touch his son's money unless he is in need. If he is in need, it is obligatory for the son to remove his father's need, whether the father takes it himself or the son gives it to him. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.