It is not proper to divorce your wife without a crime, even if your mother orders it
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Question: Peace be upon you, and Allah's mercy and blessings. As for what follows:
Your noble letter dated 5/2/1389 AH has reached me, may Allah guide you. It contained the information about the disagreement that arose between your mother and your wife's mother, which led your mother to demand that you divorce your wife. She insisted that if you did not divorce her, you would not enter her house and she would not accept anything from you. You had previously divorced your wife based on your mother's insistence that you divorce her and that she leave your house until you did so. Then you took her back afterward. Then the disagreement and the choice returned anew.
Your question about the Shari'ah ruling on the obligation to obey your mother in such a matter? All of that was known.
Answer: From 'Abd al-'Aziz ibn 'Abd Allah ibn Baz to the honorable brother M. 'A. 'A., may Allah grant him success in all good, amen.
Peace be upon you, and Allah's mercy and blessings. As for what follows:
Your noble letter dated 5/2/1389 AH has reached me, may Allah guide you. It contained the information about the disagreement that arose between your mother and your wife's mother, which led your mother to demand that you divorce your wife. She insisted that if you did not divorce her, you would not enter her house and she would not accept anything from you. You had previously divorced your wife based on your mother's insistence that you divorce her and that she leave your house until you did so. Then you took her back afterward. Then the disagreement and the choice returned anew.
Your question about the Shari'ah ruling on the obligation to obey your mother in such a matter? All of that was known.
The answer: If this wife has not harmed your mother, and your mother does not fear any harm to you in your person, your religion, or your wealth from this woman, then she has no right to separate you two. Nor are you obligated in this situation to obey her in this matter; because of the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):Sunan Ibn Majah 2340Da'if (Darussalam), and his saying (peace and blessings be upon him): Sunan Abi Dawud 2625Sahih (Al-Albani) It is not proper to divorce your wife without a crime on her part against your mother or corruption in her religion. Perhaps you can make the mother aware of this fatwa and explain to her the Shari'ah ruling; hoping that she will return from her opinion and be lenient with you in keeping her and returning to your house. In any case, it is obligatory for you to strive to be dutiful to her and please her as much as possible without divorcing your wife.
As for divorce, it is not obligatory for you in this situation. You should increase asking Allah the Exalted to guide the mother and expand her chest to be lenient with you and your wife. And Allah the Exalted is capable of all things. And whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out.
So you must fear Allah and strive in His obedience and beware of what He has forbidden. And be assured of relief, ease, and a good outcome after that. May Allah make the outcome good for us and for you, and may Allah make our matter and your matter easy and expand your mother's chest for what is good for you all. Indeed, He is Generous and Noble. And peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
Your noble letter dated 5/2/1389 AH has reached me, may Allah guide you. It contained the information about the disagreement that arose between your mother and your wife's mother, which led your mother to demand that you divorce your wife. She insisted that if you did not divorce her, you would not enter her house and she would not accept anything from you. You had previously divorced your wife based on your mother's insistence that you divorce her and that she leave your house until you did so. Then you took her back afterward. Then the disagreement and the choice returned anew.
Your question about the Shari'ah ruling on the obligation to obey your mother in such a matter? All of that was known.
Answer: From 'Abd al-'Aziz ibn 'Abd Allah ibn Baz to the honorable brother M. 'A. 'A., may Allah grant him success in all good, amen.
Peace be upon you, and Allah's mercy and blessings. As for what follows:
Your noble letter dated 5/2/1389 AH has reached me, may Allah guide you. It contained the information about the disagreement that arose between your mother and your wife's mother, which led your mother to demand that you divorce your wife. She insisted that if you did not divorce her, you would not enter her house and she would not accept anything from you. You had previously divorced your wife based on your mother's insistence that you divorce her and that she leave your house until you did so. Then you took her back afterward. Then the disagreement and the choice returned anew.
Your question about the Shari'ah ruling on the obligation to obey your mother in such a matter? All of that was known.
The answer: If this wife has not harmed your mother, and your mother does not fear any harm to you in your person, your religion, or your wealth from this woman, then she has no right to separate you two. Nor are you obligated in this situation to obey her in this matter; because of the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):
It was narrated from 'Ubadah bin Samit that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) ruled: “There should be neither harming nor reciprocating harm.”
لا ضرر ولا ضرارObedience is in matters which are good and universally recognized.
إنما الطاعة في المعروفAs for divorce, it is not obligatory for you in this situation. You should increase asking Allah the Exalted to guide the mother and expand her chest to be lenient with you and your wife. And Allah the Exalted is capable of all things. And whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out.
So you must fear Allah and strive in His obedience and beware of what He has forbidden. And be assured of relief, ease, and a good outcome after that. May Allah make the outcome good for us and for you, and may Allah make our matter and your matter easy and expand your mother's chest for what is good for you all. Indeed, He is Generous and Noble. And peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
Source
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