A man proposes to a woman; is he permitted to appoint someone to look at her?
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The questioner : ... .
The Shaykh : Very well.
The questioner : Is it permissible for this man
The Shaykh : to appoint someone to look at her?
The questioner : ... Is it permissible for him to appoint his brother to look at this woman.
The Shaykh : I mean, the woman's brother says.
The questioner : The man's brother.
The Shaykh : The man's brother looks at the woman? No, it is not permissible.
The questioner : I mean, the agent.
The Shaykh : No, he appoints an agent, I mean? It is not permissible. Then, as for herself, unless it is a woman, though I do not think one should rely on a woman. Perhaps one might rely on a woman, and as we said in the lecture, people's perceptions differ. Perhaps this woman, in the view of the woman sent to look at her, is beautiful, but in the view of the husband, she is not beautiful. Yes?
The questioner : ... "And it is recommended to marry a single, religious, foreign, virgin woman who is fertile, without a mother, and who has a look that does not usually appear repeatedly without seclusion.
And it is forbidden to explicitly propose to a woman in the waiting period due to death or to one divorced with fewer than three divorces, except by hinting. And both are permissible for one who divorced her with fewer than three, such as a revocable divorce, and they are forbidden for her to anyone other than her husband. And hinting is saying, "I am desirous of one like you," and she responds with what you desire from her, or the like thereof. If the guardian of a coerced woman responds, or if a non-coerced woman responds to a Muslim, it becomes forbidden for others to propose to her."
The Shaykh : In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions.
The Shaykh : Very well.
The questioner : Is it permissible for this man
The Shaykh : to appoint someone to look at her?
The questioner : ... Is it permissible for him to appoint his brother to look at this woman.
The Shaykh : I mean, the woman's brother says.
The questioner : The man's brother.
The Shaykh : The man's brother looks at the woman? No, it is not permissible.
The questioner : I mean, the agent.
The Shaykh : No, he appoints an agent, I mean? It is not permissible. Then, as for herself, unless it is a woman, though I do not think one should rely on a woman. Perhaps one might rely on a woman, and as we said in the lecture, people's perceptions differ. Perhaps this woman, in the view of the woman sent to look at her, is beautiful, but in the view of the husband, she is not beautiful. Yes?
The questioner : ... "And it is recommended to marry a single, religious, foreign, virgin woman who is fertile, without a mother, and who has a look that does not usually appear repeatedly without seclusion.
And it is forbidden to explicitly propose to a woman in the waiting period due to death or to one divorced with fewer than three divorces, except by hinting. And both are permissible for one who divorced her with fewer than three, such as a revocable divorce, and they are forbidden for her to anyone other than her husband. And hinting is saying, "I am desirous of one like you," and she responds with what you desire from her, or the like thereof. If the guardian of a coerced woman responds, or if a non-coerced woman responds to a Muslim, it becomes forbidden for others to propose to her."
The Shaykh : In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions.