Explanation of the words of Imam al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) regarding what he quoted: "

The reader: Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may prayers and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions:
He said -may Allah have mercy on him- in the context of the verses in the chapter on forbearance, deliberation, and gentleness: " Allah the Exalted said:

And whoever is patient and forgives - indeed, that is of the matters [requiring] determination.

ولَمَن صبر وغفر إن ذلك لمن عزم الأمور

[Ash-Shuraa 42:43]

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And as for the hadiths: From Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him and his father) he said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to Ash'aj ibn al-Qays:

Indeed there are two traits in you that Allah loves: Forbearance, and deliberateness.

إن فيك خصلتين يحبهما الله : الحِلم والأناة

Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2011Sahih (Darussalam)

narrated by Muslim.
And from Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) she said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

Allah is Gentle and loves gentleness in all things.

إن الله رفيق يحب الرفق في الأمر كله

Sunan Ibn Majah 3689Sahih (Darussalam)

agreed upon by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
And from her (may Allah be pleased with her), that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

verily Allah is kind and He loves kindness and confers upon kindness which he does not confer upon severity and does not confer upon anything else besides it (kindness).

إن الله رفيق يحب الرفق، ويعطي على الرفق ما لا يعطي على العنف، وما لا يعطي على ما سواه

Sahih Muslim 2593

narrated by Muslim.
And from her (may Allah be pleased with her), that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

Whenever there is compassion in something, it adorns it, and whenever it is removed from something it disgraces it.

إن الرفق لا يكون في شيء إلا زانه، ولا يُنزع من شيء إلا شانه

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 27:14

narrated by Muslim ".

The Shaykh : In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful:
Al-Hafiz al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) mentioned in the context of the verses in the chapter on gentleness, forbearance, and deliberation, the saying of Allah the Exalted: : "Sabr" means enduring harm, and "Ghafar" means overlooking it when it befalls him, meaning for those who are resolute in matters, meaning: from the matters that indicate a man's determination and prudence, and that he is capable of controlling himself and mastering it. This is because people are divided into categories regarding their control over themselves:
Some people are unable to control themselves at all.
And some people are able to do so, but with great difficulty.
And some people are able to do so, but with ease; Allah the Mighty and Majestic has created them with noble character, so patience and forgiveness are easy for them.
So the one who endures the harm of people, bears it, and seeks reward from Allah, and forgives them, this is the one who performed this resolute act among matters, meaning: among affairs. And this is a clear encouragement that it is obligatory for a person to be patient and forgive. We have previously detailed the issue of pardoning wrongdoers and aggressors, and that it is not absolutely praised nor absolutely blamed, but rather one looks at what brings about reform.
Then the author mentioned what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to Ash'aj ibn al-Qays, he said to him: Forbearance: When a person is provoked, wronged, and attacked, he shows forbearance, but he is not like a donkey who does not care about what was done to him; he is affected, but he is forbearing and does not hasten with punishment, until if the punishment becomes better than forgiveness, he takes the punishment.
And deliberation: Slowness in matters and not rushing. How often a person is destroyed and stumbles because of rushing in matters, whether in transmitting news, or in judging what he heard, or in other things. For example, some people snatch up news as soon as they hear it, they tell it and transmit it. And it came in the hadith: .
And some people rush in judgment; they hear something about a person and confirm that he said it or that he did it, then they rush to judge that he erred or went astray or the like of that, and this is a mistake. Deliberation in all matters is good.
Then the author mentioned the three hadiths of Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) in the chapter on gentleness, and that gentleness is beloved to Allah the Mighty and Majestic, and that it does not enter into anything except that it adorns it, and it is not removed from anything except that it disfigures it. In it is the encouragement that a person should be gentle, gentle in all his affairs, gentle in dealing with his family, in dealing with his brothers, in dealing with his friends, in dealing with the general public, being gentle with them: . For this reason, a person finds that if he deals with people with gentleness, he finds pleasure and expansion of the chest, and if he deals with them with harshness and violence, he regrets it and then says: I wish I had not done it, but after the time has passed. But if he deals with them with gentleness, softness, and deliberation, his chest expands and he does not regret anything he did. May Allah guide everyone to what is good and reform, and to good character and manners.
The reader: In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may prayers and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions:
The author -may Allah have mercy on him- quoted in the context of the hadiths in the chapter on forbearance, deliberation, and gentleness: " From Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) he said:

when a desert Arab got up and passed water in the mosque the people took hold of him, but the Prophet said to them, “Leave him alone, and pour a bucket* of water over what he has passed, for you have been sent only to make things easy and not to make things difficult.”

بال أعرابي في المسجد فقام الناس إليه ليقعوا فيه، فقال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: دعوه وأريقوا على بوله سجلا من ماء، أو ذَنوبا من ماء، فإنما بعثتم مُيسرين ولم تبعثوا مُعسرين

Mishkat al-Masabih 491

narrated by al-Bukhari.
And from Anas (may Allah be pleased with him), from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) he said:

Facilitate things to people (concerning religious matters), and do not make it hard for them and give them good tidings and do not make them run away (from Islam).

يسروا ولا تعسروا وبشروا ولا تنفروا

Sahih al-Bukhari 69

agreed upon by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
And from Jarir ibn Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) he said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say:

He who is deprived of gentleness is deprived of good.

مَن يُحرم الرّفق يحرم الخير كلّه

Sunan Abi Dawud 4809Sahih (Al-Albani)

narrated by Muslim.
And from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him):

A man said to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): "Advise me." He said: "Do not become angry." The man repeated this several times, and he said: "Do not become angry."

أن رجلا قال للنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: أوصني، قال: لا تغضب، فردد مرارًا، قال: لا تغضب

narrated by al-Bukhari ".