Explanation of the words of Imam al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) regarding what he quoted: "

The reciter: He said -may Allah have mercy on him-: "The Chapter on Enduring Harm:
Allah the Exalted said:

and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good;

والكاظمين الغيظ والعافين عن الناس والله يحب المحسنين

[Ali 'Imran 3:134]

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And He the Exalted said:

And whoever is patient and forgives - indeed, that is of the matters [requiring] determination.

ولَمَن صبر وغفر إن ذلك لمن عزم الأمور

[Ash-Shuraa 42:43]

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And from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him):

Abu Huraira reported that a person said: Allah's Messenger, I have relatives with whom I try, to have close relationship, but they sever (this relation). I treat them well, but they treat me ill. I am sweet to them but they are harsh towards me. Upon this he (the Holy Prophet) said: If it is so as you say, then you in fact throw hot ashes (upon their faces) and there would always remain with you on behalf of Allah (an Angel to support you) who would keep you dominant over them so long as you adhere to this (path of righteousness).

أنَّ رجلا قال: يا رسول الله إن لي قرابة أصلهم ويقطعوني، وأحسن إليهم ويسيئون إليّ، وأحلَم عنهم ويجهلون عليّ؟ فقال: لئن كنت كما قلت فكأنما تسفهم الملّ، ولا يزال معك من الله تعالى ظهير عليهم ما دمت على ذلك

Sahih Muslim 2558a

Narrated by Muslim ".

The Shaykh : In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful:
The author said -may Allah have mercy on him-: "The Chapter on Patience with Harm": Harm is that by which a person is hurt, whether by speech, action, or otherwise. Harm may be in a religious matter or a worldly matter. If it is in a religious matter, meaning that a man is harmed for the sake of his religion, then in this -patience with harm- there is an example to follow in the noble messengers (peace be upon them), for Allah says: : they were harmed until the help of Allah came to them, Mighty and Majestic. And if a person has religion with him, and he enjoins good and forbids evil, he must be harmed. But he must be patient, and if he is patient, the outcome is for the righteous. A person may be tested according to the measure of his religion, so Allah sends upon him those who harm him as a trial and test, as Allah the Exalted said: : meaning, if he is harmed in the way of Allah, from the side of his religion, his enjoining of good, his forbidding of evil, and his calling to good, he makes the trial of people like a punishment, so he turns back on his heels, may Allah protect us from that. As in His saying: : meaning, some people worship Allah on the edge; they do not have established worship. If good befalls them and no trial or harm comes to them, they continue, walking and being at peace. But if a trial befalls them: a doubt, harm, or the like, they turn on their faces, may Allah protect us from that, losing this world and the Hereafter. So it is obligatory to be patient with harm for the sake of Allah, Mighty and Majestic. As for harm in matters related to worldly affairs and dealing with people, you have the choice: if you wish, be patient; if you wish, take your right. And patience is better, except if in patience there is aggression and continuation in aggression, then taking your right is more appropriate. Let us suppose you have a neighbor who harms you with noisy sounds, or knocking on the wall, or parking his car in front of your house, or the like. Then the right is yours; he did not harm you for the sake of Allah. If you wish, be patient and endure and wait for relief, and Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, will make for you a supporter against him. If you wish, take your right, by the saying of Allah the Exalted: : But patience is better as long as it does not result in increased aggression from the aggressor. In that case, it is better to take his right to deter him from his injustice.
Then the author mentioned -may Allah have mercy on him- the hadith of Abu Hurayrah, mentioning two verses about which speech has preceded: , , and speech has preceded about them.
Then he mentioned the hadith of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), in which a man said to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): : meaning, so what should I do? So the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: : meaning, a supporter who Allah will support you with against them, even if in the future. For these relatives, may Allah protect us from that, their relative maintains ties with them, but they cut him off; he does good to them, but they do evil to him; he is patient with them and forgives and overlooks, but they are ignorant toward him and increase in that. So these, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: . Al-mal: hot ash. And tasaffahum means: you feed it to them in their mouths. And it is an idiom that this man is victorious over them. And the one who truly maintains ties is not the one who reciprocates with the one who maintains ties with him, but the one who truly maintains ties is the one who, if his ties are cut, he maintains them. This is the true maintainer of ties. So a person should be patient and seek reward from Allah for the harm of his relatives, neighbors, companions, and others. So he will not cease to have from Allah a support against them, and he is the winner and they are the losers. May Allah guide us and you to what is good and reform in this world and the Hereafter.