Guidance for Guardians to Reduce the Costs of Marriage
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Question:
A somewhat lengthy letter was received by this program, signed by twenty-nine listeners. These brothers mentioned their names, and the issue they are complaining about is the costs of marriage and how excessive they have become. Shall I read their names, Your Eminence?
Answer:
No, it is not obligatory.
The presenter : So the issue is the costs of marriage, which reach imaginary amounts. When a student graduates from university, he is eligible for marriage, but he has nothing in his hands. They ask Your Eminence to guide the guardians so that they pay attention to this matter and find a way to make marriage easier for young men and young women. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : My advice to everyone is to be careful to reduce the mahr and the other costs so that marriage becomes easy for young women and young men. I advise all Muslims in this country and elsewhere to facilitate the matter of marriage, whether in terms of the mahr or the other costs, such as the wedding feast and others.
So the girl’s family should be lenient and accept what is feasible from the young men. The important thing is the presence of a righteous young man and a righteous husband, as in the hadith about him (peace and blessings be upon him) that he said:Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1084Da'if (Darussalam) So my advice to the girls and the guardians of the girls is to be tolerant in this matter and to be satisfied with a small mahr according to the capacity of the good suitor.
And so with the wedding feast and the other costs, I advise everyone to lighten them and not to be strict with them. By doing so, marriage and chastity will be achieved for the young women and the young men, and this contains great good for everyone. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Mishkat al-Masabih 3080.
And I advise the guardians to facilitate this matter according to their capacity. When there is cooperation from the guardians, the married women, the rulers, and the scholars, when there is cooperation in this; much good will be achieved, if Allah wills.
The presenter: May Allah will it.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, and He has responded to your call, for He is Able to do all things.
The Shaykh : O Allah, amen, yes.
A somewhat lengthy letter was received by this program, signed by twenty-nine listeners. These brothers mentioned their names, and the issue they are complaining about is the costs of marriage and how excessive they have become. Shall I read their names, Your Eminence?
Answer:
No, it is not obligatory.
The presenter : So the issue is the costs of marriage, which reach imaginary amounts. When a student graduates from university, he is eligible for marriage, but he has nothing in his hands. They ask Your Eminence to guide the guardians so that they pay attention to this matter and find a way to make marriage easier for young men and young women. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : My advice to everyone is to be careful to reduce the mahr and the other costs so that marriage becomes easy for young women and young men. I advise all Muslims in this country and elsewhere to facilitate the matter of marriage, whether in terms of the mahr or the other costs, such as the wedding feast and others.
So the girl’s family should be lenient and accept what is feasible from the young men. The important thing is the presence of a righteous young man and a righteous husband, as in the hadith about him (peace and blessings be upon him) that he said:
When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes to (someone under the care) of one of you, then marry to him. If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and abounding discord (Fasad).
إذا خطب إليكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه؛ فزوجوه، إلا تفعلوه؛ تكن فتنة في الأرض، وفساد كبيرAnd so with the wedding feast and the other costs, I advise everyone to lighten them and not to be strict with them. By doing so, marriage and chastity will be achieved for the young women and the young men, and this contains great good for everyone. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Young man, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing sexual desire.
يا معشر الشباب! من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج؛ فإنه أغض للبصر، وأحصن للفرج، ومن لم يستطع؛ فعليه بالصوم؛ فإنه له وجاءAnd I advise the guardians to facilitate this matter according to their capacity. When there is cooperation from the guardians, the married women, the rulers, and the scholars, when there is cooperation in this; much good will be achieved, if Allah wills.
The presenter: May Allah will it.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, and He has responded to your call, for He is Able to do all things.
The Shaykh : O Allah, amen, yes.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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