How a traveler can be dutiful to his parents
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Question:
The listener who used the initials (M. M.) for her name says in this question: Your Eminence! How can we be dutiful to our parents when we live in one country and they are in another? And if the father, or the mother, prays, but they do not maintain it at its proper time, or they pray it very quickly, what is required of us when we are far away from them?
Answer:
The son must advise his parents and be dutiful to them to the best of his ability; for Allah the Exalted said: [Surat al-Taghabun: 16]. If he is present, he does so with kind words and kind actions, and if he is absent, he does so by writing or by telephone. [Surat al-Taghabun: 16]. He advises them, greets them, and makes du'a for them, in writing, on the telephone, and when he is present, he makes du'a for them and thanks them for their good deeds. If he sees that they are falling short in prayer, or otherwise, he advises them with kind words and gentleness, as Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) said: [Surat Luqman: 14] [Surat Luqman: 15]. Then He said after that: [Surat Luqman: 15]. And they were disbelievers, so He said: [Surat Luqman: 15]. So He commanded the son to treat his parents with kindness, even if they were disbelievers; how much more so if they are Muslims?
So it is obligatory for the son, whether male or female, to fear Allah and to be dutiful to his parents in deed and word. If they are poor and he is able, he should spend on them. If they command him, he should obey them in what is right. When he visits them, he should greet them, respect them, and make du'a for them. If they are absent, he should correspond with them by writing or by telephone, making du'a for them and greeting them... and so on. He should strive in various forms of good. If they are in need, he should spend on them while he is able; for Allah says: [Surat al-Taghabun: 16].
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So the believer strives to be dutiful to his parents, and he gives his mother special care, then the closest relatives, then the next closest, among his children, his brothers, his paternal uncles, his paternal aunts, his maternal uncles, and his maternal aunts, then the closest, then the next closest. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good, O Shaykh.
The listener who used the initials (M. M.) for her name says in this question: Your Eminence! How can we be dutiful to our parents when we live in one country and they are in another? And if the father, or the mother, prays, but they do not maintain it at its proper time, or they pray it very quickly, what is required of us when we are far away from them?
Answer:
The son must advise his parents and be dutiful to them to the best of his ability; for Allah the Exalted said:
So fear Allah as much as you are able
فَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُمْSo fear Allah as much as you are able
فَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُمْBe grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.
أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُBut if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them
وَإِنْ جَاهَدَاكَ عَلى أَنْ تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلا تُطِعْهُمَاbut accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness
وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًاbut accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness
وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًاSo it is obligatory for the son, whether male or female, to fear Allah and to be dutiful to his parents in deed and word. If they are poor and he is able, he should spend on them. If they command him, he should obey them in what is right. When he visits them, he should greet them, respect them, and make du'a for them. If they are absent, he should correspond with them by writing or by telephone, making du'a for them and greeting them... and so on. He should strive in various forms of good. If they are in need, he should spend on them while he is able; for Allah says:
So fear Allah as much as you are able
فَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُمْA man said: O Messenger of Allah! Who is most deserving of my good companionship? He said:
Your mother
أمكYour mother
أمكYour mother
أمكyour father, then the nearest relatives, then the nearest relatives
أباك، ثم الأقرب فالأقربYour mother
أمكYour mother
أمكYour mother
أمكYour father.
أبوكSo the believer strives to be dutiful to his parents, and he gives his mother special care, then the closest relatives, then the next closest, among his children, his brothers, his paternal uncles, his paternal aunts, his maternal uncles, and his maternal aunts, then the closest, then the next closest. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good, O Shaykh.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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