Scholarly disagreement and the stronger position regarding women visiting graves

The third message we received is from a female questioner from Iraq, from Duhok, who identified herself as (S. S). The sister from Iraq says in her message: It is mentioned in the noble hadith of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) that he said: . I ask for clarification: does this refer to all women, or to specific women? What is the situation when visiting the grave of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)? And what are the supplications recited when visiting graves? Please inform us, may Allah reward you.
Answer: The scholars differed on women visiting graves after they agreed on its being a recommended practice (sunnah) for men. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) initially prohibited visiting graves in the early days of Islam out of fear of fitnah (trial) regarding graves; because the pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah) used to venerate graves, and perhaps some of the buried were worshipped alongside Allah. So He prohibited them from visiting graves to protect the oneness of Allah (tawhid) and to block the means to associating partners with Allah (shirk). Then He permitted men to visit. He said, may the prayers and peace be upon him: , and in another wording: .
The scholars differed on whether women are included in this or not? There are two opinions among the scholars of knowledge: and the correct one is that they are not included in the dispensation (rukhsah), rather they are prohibited from visiting graves; because it was reported from him (peace and blessings be upon him) through several chains: , and in another wording: , from the hadith of Abu Hurayrah, and from the hadith of Ibn Abbas, and from the hadith of Hassan ibn Thabit , and in it is the cursing of women who visit graves.
So the correct position is that they do not visit graves absolutely. This is the stronger of the scholars' opinions. They do not visit the grave of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) nor stand over it. But they send prayers upon the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in every place, in the Prophet's Mosque, in the house, on the road, in their homes, and in every place. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said: . So the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) encouraged us and incited us to send prayers and peace upon him, as Allah commanded that in His great Book, where He said, Exalted is He: [Al-Ahzab: 56]. May Allah send prayers and peace upon him and upon his family and his companions, a continuous prayer and peace until the Day of Judgment.
So what is prescribed (mashru') for women is to send prayers and peace upon him in every place, just as for men. It is not prescribed for them to visit the grave, nor the graves of other people, not in their country nor in other countries. This is the relied-upon and stronger of the scholars' opinions in this issue. And if a woman is in Medina, traveling, she prays in the mosque with the people, and she sends prayers upon the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) while she is in the mosque. She has no need to go to the grave to send prayers upon him in her place, and she sends peace upon him, saying: "O Allah, send prayers and peace upon the Messenger of Allah. Upon you be the prayers and peace, O Messenger of Allah!" and the like of that. And this is sufficient, praise be to Allah, as a precaution and to stay away from what Allah has forbidden. Yes.