The Ruling on Retaliating Against an Evil with a Similar Evil

Question:
The questioner says: A woman learned of my misfortune and went around spreading it among the women and the people. Is it permissible for me to take revenge on myself by exposing her and spreading her faults and ruining her home? Is that permissible for me?

Answer:
It is not permissible for you to do that, but you should advise her and make it clear to her that this is not permissible. If she wrongs you, do not wrong her. If she backbites, do not backbite her, and so on. But advise her, and look for someone who can advise her, guide her to good, and teach her that this is wrong and that it is not permissible. However, do not punish her by spreading some of her bad deeds, because spreading bad deeds is backbiting, and Allah has forbidden backbiting . It is also one of the causes of fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) and great evil, and much enmity. So if she wrongs you, do not wrong her yourself, but call upon Allah for her guidance, advise her, and call upon some of your brothers who have influence over her to advise her and restrain her tongue. Yes.
And if you want punishment, there is no harm. If you want to seek punishment from the court so that she is punished for her action, there is no harm.

The presenter: May Allah reward you with good, O Your Eminence.