Advice on hastening marriage
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Question:
The questioner : Shaykh 'Abd al-'Aziz! The newspapers say that houses are full of spinsters. What is your guidance?
Answer:
The Shaykh : This is not far from the truth. There are many women and many young men, but marriage is few for many reasons. Among them: a girl may say, "I will wait until I graduate from university," and a young man may say the same. He may be poor and unable to afford the costs of marriage, or he may be afflicted with other things that prevent him from marrying. In such cases, cooperation and mutual support to facilitate marriage are necessary.
The Shaykh : First: by advising young men and young women not to be overly strict.
The Shaykh : Second: by facilitating bridal gifts and not being extravagant in them.
The Shaykh : Third: by not being extravagant in wedding feasts.
The Shaykh : A young man should hasten to marry even if he has no money, even if he does not possess a penny, even if he is seeking knowledge. He should seek help from Allah, rent a house, and not be extravagant. Even if he borrows some debt, all of this should be facilitated.
The Shaykh : The girl's parents should help her and facilitate her needs. They should not be extravagant in demanding the bridal gift or in the matter of wedding celebrations and feasts. Brevity and cooperation in this matter are necessary so that marriage is facilitated for the young man and the young woman. We ask Allah for guidance for everyone. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you. Shaykh 'Abd al-'Aziz, which is preferable: continuing education or marriage?
Answer: What I see is that one should hasten to marry and not let continuing education prevent him. He should continue his education and marry. Education does not prevent marriage. If you are studying and marriage becomes easy, you should hasten to marry and continue your education. As for the woman, it is not necessary for her to continue if she does so, praise be to Allah. Otherwise, she should be content with what Allah has made easy and obey her husband. She should not wait for the university degree but should marry, because this is more protective of her chastity, safer for her, more protective of her husband's chastity, and closer to harmony, having offspring, and the well-being of society. Completing university education is not a condition for marriage. No, even for a man, if he has completed secondary education, praise be to Allah, but both of them can continue after marriage. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good. Shaykh 'Abd al-'Aziz, material things have an effect on people's lives. When a person marries, he wants to furnish his house and wants to live a certain life. What is your guidance, if you please?
The Shaykh: This is something that hinders marriage. One should not be overly demanding, even if he has to rent an apartment or take out a loan, for Allah will repay him on his behalf . His family and relatives should help him, and he should have good expectations of Allah and not be strict in matters. He should hasten to marry, even if it is through borrowing, or by being lenient regarding the furniture or the apartment or the house. He should not be strict in matters until Allah makes things easy for him. Yes.
The presenter: Does that mean it is not necessary to live a life of perfection at the beginning of his married life?
The Shaykh: It is not necessary. No, he should be lenient and tolerant and should not be strict in matters. But after that, Allah will enrich him and facilitate his affairs.[At-Talaq 65:2]
The presenter: Allah has responded to you and benefited people with your knowledge.
The questioner : Shaykh 'Abd al-'Aziz! The newspapers say that houses are full of spinsters. What is your guidance?
Answer:
The Shaykh : This is not far from the truth. There are many women and many young men, but marriage is few for many reasons. Among them: a girl may say, "I will wait until I graduate from university," and a young man may say the same. He may be poor and unable to afford the costs of marriage, or he may be afflicted with other things that prevent him from marrying. In such cases, cooperation and mutual support to facilitate marriage are necessary.
The Shaykh : First: by advising young men and young women not to be overly strict.
The Shaykh : Second: by facilitating bridal gifts and not being extravagant in them.
The Shaykh : Third: by not being extravagant in wedding feasts.
The Shaykh : A young man should hasten to marry even if he has no money, even if he does not possess a penny, even if he is seeking knowledge. He should seek help from Allah, rent a house, and not be extravagant. Even if he borrows some debt, all of this should be facilitated.
The Shaykh : The girl's parents should help her and facilitate her needs. They should not be extravagant in demanding the bridal gift or in the matter of wedding celebrations and feasts. Brevity and cooperation in this matter are necessary so that marriage is facilitated for the young man and the young woman. We ask Allah for guidance for everyone. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you. Shaykh 'Abd al-'Aziz, which is preferable: continuing education or marriage?
Answer: What I see is that one should hasten to marry and not let continuing education prevent him. He should continue his education and marry. Education does not prevent marriage. If you are studying and marriage becomes easy, you should hasten to marry and continue your education. As for the woman, it is not necessary for her to continue if she does so, praise be to Allah. Otherwise, she should be content with what Allah has made easy and obey her husband. She should not wait for the university degree but should marry, because this is more protective of her chastity, safer for her, more protective of her husband's chastity, and closer to harmony, having offspring, and the well-being of society. Completing university education is not a condition for marriage. No, even for a man, if he has completed secondary education, praise be to Allah, but both of them can continue after marriage. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good. Shaykh 'Abd al-'Aziz, material things have an effect on people's lives. When a person marries, he wants to furnish his house and wants to live a certain life. What is your guidance, if you please?
The Shaykh: This is something that hinders marriage. One should not be overly demanding, even if he has to rent an apartment or take out a loan, for Allah will repay him on his behalf . His family and relatives should help him, and he should have good expectations of Allah and not be strict in matters. He should hasten to marry, even if it is through borrowing, or by being lenient regarding the furniture or the apartment or the house. He should not be strict in matters until Allah makes things easy for him. Yes.
The presenter: Does that mean it is not necessary to live a life of perfection at the beginning of his married life?
The Shaykh: It is not necessary. No, he should be lenient and tolerant and should not be strict in matters. But after that, Allah will enrich him and facilitate his affairs.
And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out
وَمَنْ يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَلْ لَهُ مَخْرَجًاThe presenter: Allah has responded to you and benefited people with your knowledge.
Source
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